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Totally normal. Sleep when the baby sleeps. Do not try to get everything done while they are asleep or you will burn out quick. Eat healthy and keep up your strength. Try to feed the baby and change the baby on a schedule. I used to get so upset when people would call me lazy because they didn't know how I was feeling. It takes a while for your body to feel normal again. If at all possible see if yours/ or his mother could help out, a sister or an Aunt or even a friend. It doesnt hurt to ask and most people would be happy to help, just dont take their help for granted. Dont expect to be super Mom and have everything done and feel 100%. Feel good for what you accomplished for the day and hope for more tomorrow. If all you get done today is taking a shower, then oh well! as long as you are taking care of the baby then that is all that matters for now.

I totally feel u. It can be exhausting having a newborn. What I do is do mini-chores. Like, lets say I go to the bathroom for #1? After washing my hands, I quickly wipe down the sink and counter (I have the cleaning supplies under the sink) If Im making my self a sandwich, while the bread is toasting... I sweep the floors. Also, for me, walking with the baby really gives me energy. It didnt at first, but now, I get TONS of energy from walking.

Hope that helps.

Thank you both. I'll definitely try some things in your comments.
But as for the "sleep while the baby sleeps", I've always heard that but I'm still at the point where every little sound he makes, I get up in a worry.

hey dont worry i feelt the same way when i had my first then my second then my thrid and now i am on the 4 .i still am at that point were every noise the kids make when there asleep i have to check on them >i dont sleep when the kids sleep throught the day couse thats normally my only chance to get thing done is when their asleep and the older kids are at school couse when they get up i am running around after them. i normally try and do all the chours on the weekend couse then i can put the younger two down for a nap and send the older 3 outside to play in the afternoon and just clean till the kids get up or its time to start on tea i allso have the older kids including elly on a chours chart> witch means i write down all the chours and split them in to groups (eg: ellys pile,tys pile,tylers pile, my pile) then i print out a copie of each list and put the lists on the fridge then each afternoon after there finished there snack and homework and have changed i get them to do there chours they do 2 a day and it gets crossed of as they go and when all the chours are crossed of i start again (the kids hate it but love getting payed at the end >$5 a kid) any way what ever i dont get done on the weekends i do when the kids go to bed > but not on school days couse thats my chance to get the kids stuff for school ready - i try and shower at night times so i dont have to worry about the kids throught the day when i have one. i dont leave all the chours till the weekend i do the basics through the week (eg: washing,washing up etc:) it works ok for me.
just relax you will be ok and get on top of the chours just me yourself and take some time to relax, eat healthy and look after yourself and the baby > i am sure if you dont geet tea cooked your hubby will help even better just grab takeaway for a couple of nights then grab some things you can put in the microwave > just make sure its happy dont try and do eveything on your own >i tryed that and it dosent work thats why i got the kids involved so get your hubby involed he wont mind best of luck for you

That's a great idea! I used to do the same, but, now I am older and tired and my son is grown so I am going to take your advise....thanks for sharing Victoria

Different circumstances, but similiar problem- I have a disability, a chronic, progressive illness that leaves me with very little energy. My number one piece of advice that I have had to learn is to do what you can and learn to let go of the things that can wait or aren't essentials. I've had to accept that my home will never be as perfect as I'd like it to be. I also find that taking 5 minutes here and there to do just a little bit leaves me with having more energy when I need it most. I have to listen to my body and when it says its done all it can, not to push myself. My illness has affected my ability to organize and it stresses me out and I'm still having to learn that I'm not going to get everything done in one day. I have to prioritize, as my body will never feel normal. It's also harder for people to understand when your problem is a chronic one that won't get better and I've had to learn ways to de-stress, make my sleep a priority. As for having a baby to care for when you have no energy, if your able to, hire a babysitter just to help you get the rest you need so that you will be able to give the best of yourself, one that's not so wornout. I've had to learn to remind myself when people don't understand how bad I feel that they just don't get it and I can't let that get to me even when it hurts. If you can afford it, hire a maid, even if it's every week or every other week and let go of the guilt and contempt over not meeting the "expectations" or others, which are really "misunderstanding" of others. Learn to accept that people who critisize are often ignorant. Don't compare yourself to someone who could do it all, every situation is unique. My daughter was in the NICU for over 2 months, I had a complicated C-section and I lived at the NICU. Housework went by the way said, most of it. Be proud of what you have done for the day, not what anyone else thinks you should or tells you. learn to accept that other people will not understand, keep reminding yourself of that and it will sink in. Most of our stress comes from negative self-talk, and learning to become aware of it and change anything negative with a realistic, positive thought will make all the difference.

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