If someone asked me what’s the laziest thing I’ve ever done, I could probably come up with a pretty long, slightly embarrassing list. For instance, I’ve been known to cram my dishwasher to capacity to avoid having to do dishes. I also let the dryer “iron” my 100 percent cotton clothes because I hate ironing (to be honest, I’m not even sure if I have an iron.) And after I had kids, I gave up on handwritten thank-you notes and now I just send thank-you texts (I know, I’m awful.) But of all the lazy things I will cop to, there’s one thing I would never consider “lazy”: the two C-sections I’ve had.
You may have heard that actress Kate Hudson was recently asked in an interview for the October issue of Cosmopolitan what she considers the laziest thing she’s ever done. Her response? “Have a C-section!” That sound you hear is every C-section mom screaming at her flippant, careless comment.
During a Cesarean, the obstetrician makes two incisions—one cut on the outside of the body, usually at the bikini line, and a second cut to open the uterus and remove the baby. The surgery is most often performed while the mother is conscious and numbed by a spinal block that essentially paralyzes her from the chest down. Recovery takes longer than a vaginal delivery and, because it's major surgery, the risks are also greater.
I had my first C-section in 2009 after a failed induction that involved a 12-hour Pitocin drip and contractions that were literally off the printed chart. With my blood pressure climbing dangerously high, I opted for surgery because I had been up for nearly 24-hours, was unable to eat or drink and was only one centimeter dilated.
That wasn’t a “lazy” choice—it was the right choice.
Even still, it was a hard choice to make because I had it in my head that I wanted my baby born vaginally and giving up that idea of there being a “right” way and a “wrong” way for a baby to be born was difficult in the moment.
My second C-section was in 2011 and it was scheduled because my blood pressure was high again, my baby was measuring over 10 pounds and my doctor didn’t want to risk another induction. It was easier to accept the idea of having a C-section the second time around, but I still wouldn’t call my decision lazy.
Prepping for a C-section meant not eating or drinking prior to surgery and making sure I had adequate help, as I wouldn’t be able to drive or lift anything over 10 pounds for at least two weeks. This included my baby, who was born weighing 10 pounds, 15 ounces, as well as my 21-month-old toddler at home. I had major surgery twice in less than two years and took care of two babies while I healed.
Look, I get that Hudson was probably joking, but the joke was in bad taste and only increases the stigma that C-section moms already experience. C-sections account for one-third of all deliveries in the U.S., and while we can debate the necessity of that many surgeries, I think the one thing we can all agree on is that whether you're a celebrity or not, having major abdominal surgery is definitely not the easy way out.