You always read about what not to say, so I thought I'd flip the script and share 10 things to say to a new mom. Just saying something nice and simple can go a long way in brightening a mom's day, especially since that day has been more than likely quite hectic. If you say any of these things, or if you hear any of these things, someone's doing something right.
Because I probably feel anything but great, what with my
questionable state of hygiene, unkempt hair, uptake of caffeine and severe lack
of sleep. A compliment on my appearance is the sweetest thing I can hear.
Except for my baby's coos, of course.
2. "Your baby is so well-behaved!"
Nobody wants their baby to start screaming bloody murder in
the middle of a meal out or in a crowded grocery store, yet it is a common fear
all of us new moms carry with us. Letting me know that my baby is pleasant and
not bothering you in the slightest is a welcome comment and one that probably
isn't said enough.
3. "Can I bring dinner over sometime?"
Because, food. It is always needed, always a good idea and a
huge help. Bring the food and everybody's happy.
4. "I'll babysit!"
As a brand new mom, I may not want to leave my baby yet, but
even just an offer to come watch the baby while I get things done around the
house, take a bubble bath or clock in a nice long nap will be a huge help and
much needed break!
5. "What a cute baby!"
I never ever get sick of hearing it.
Well, I obviously know this to be true already, but I never
ever get sick of hearing it. Ever. I mean, I did make him, after all, and he's
kind of my biggest accomplishment. To hear that I did a great job will make me
beam like no other.
6. "Let me change his diaper."
If you really want to make a new mom happy, this is one
great way to do so. I've been swimming in a sea of dirty diapers for a while
now. Offering to change one or two for me will be a breath of fresh air. Just
make sure you're close to the new mom or baby, otherwise this could be a little
7. "It gets easier."
Sometimes the monotony of life with a newborn or a
particularly rough day can be overwhelming. Hearing some encouraging words that
remind me "this too shall pass" can be a huge comfort.
8. "She has your eyes!"
Even if in reality newborns look pretty much like newborns and nothing else.
There's nothing sweeter than someone telling you how much
your little bundle of joy looks just like you, even if in reality newborns look
pretty much like newborns and nothing else.
9. "I understand what you're feeling."
Being reassured that I'm not the only one in the world who
has been through this can be a huge help when I'm feeling particularly lost.
Some days are tough, and it's nice to know that others can relate and empathize
with how I'm feeling.
All parents feel overwhelmed, nervous and unsure at times in
the midst of this parenting journey, and just being told that we're doing a
great job can lift our spirits and our confidence. Deep down we know that we really
are all doing a great job, but it never hurts to be reassured of that fact.