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Cleaning Your House and the Dad Factor

When I first read the report that claimed fathers who help with household chores are more likely to raise daughters who aspire to less traditional, and potentially higher paying, careers, I was like, “Suh-weet!”

My husband is not only a caring, involved, hands-on Dad, he is also the kind of guy who rolls up his sleeves and cleans toilets. And vacuums and mops and dusts. You name it: he'll clean it. He even scrubs the mold from the tile grout in the shower.

The bottom line — he works hard outside of the home as well as in it.

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I have always appreciated this about my husband. In the past, I might have said he was a “keeper.” Now, I can claim he is helping raise our daughter to become a strong, independent woman.

The study's findings conclude that how parents share domestic duties plays a key role in shaping the gender attitudes and aspirations of their children, especially daughters.

The results demonstrated what we all know to be true — actions speak louder than words. Even when fathers endorsed gender equality, daughters envisioned themselves in conventionally female roles in homes where a more traditional division of labor existed.

If there are greater benefits to hubby pulling out the vacuum, it’s just a bonus.

I hadn’t put much thought into how my husband’s helping around the house influenced my daughter. I focused more on the ways it supported me.

Our 6-year-old daughter’s current career aspirations? To be a zoo veterinarian. Hmmmm. Our family dynamic seems to fit the ideal model the study outlines.

There has been criticism of the research results. Some have claimed to debunk it entirely. Detractors claim the study sample was too small and uniform, and that other predictors of career choice were ignored.

I don’t really care if it is true or not. If there are greater benefits to hubby pulling out the vacuum, it’s just a bonus. The approach to housework we have in place is what works for our family. We didn’t need research to endorse it.

For me, personally, what is more important than our daughter taking note of who is doing more around the house is that she views my husband and me as loving partners. In the way we parent, the way we manage our home and the way we live.

That is the example I want to set for her.

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