I don’t want to be dogmatic here: If you don’t want to let your baby cry it out, then don’t. Harvard doesn’t have a checkbox for which kids had to cry it out and which ones didn’t. But crying it out doesn’t have to be a harmful, painful thing for children. The studies that show crying it out is bad are the same studies that document parents letting their children cry to the point of distress. In our house, we prefer to call it “fuss it out.” When a baby starts crying, we set the timer for about 10 minutes. Usually the baby will fall back to sleep. If she doesn’t, then we go get her. Most babies fuss or make noise in their sleep. Learning to judge when your baby is going to fall back to sleep and when they need food or cuddles is hard, but you will get there. And if they have to cry for a bit, it’s OK too. Of course, if you don’t feel comfortable with doing that, it’s fine too. You do you. Your baby will turn out just fine.