Lee Simmons has successfully delivered her fourth child this week. This
makes Baby Daddy No. 3 for the former model and reality show veteran. Does
anyone judge her for her growing brood of offspring? Absolutely not. What about
Erykah Badu the free-spirited songstress whose sound defined the term neo soul?
Erykah has three children from three different relationships. Is anyone boycotting her
or admonishing her? Never. Men do it all of the time and no one ever bats an
when they are celebrities.
Is it the fact that
these women are superstars that offers them a pass from the judgmental eyes and
comments from strangers? What is the difference from the average woman who has
the same story to tell?
I believe the major
difference between women who are judged harshly as loose or shameful and those
who are still widely respected after giving birth to multiple children from multiple
men can be summed up by socioeconomic status. Those women who do not earn high
incomes and have multiple children with different fathers are frowned upon
because tax payers fear they will have to bear the burden of contributing
financially to feed and clothe them through government assistance.
While society's reactions may vary, the underlying reality is the woman with the big bank account
and the woman barely making ends meet have similar experiences when it
comes to the pursuit of love. Every woman who has given birth to a child and then moved on to create another child with a new lover have quite a few AWESOME things in common.
1. She hasn't given up on
Women who produce
children from different partners are the women who understand that in order to
receive love you have to give love a chance. She is not a woman made of stone,
so she tries again and again, giving her all, her time, attention and body
to men that she deems worthy.
She is not bitter and
she gives love a chance. Just because the relationships don't last forever doesn't mean they were failures or bad decisions. Sometimes life's sweetest experiences
are fleeting and sometimes those same fleeting moments produce miracles that last a lifetime.
2. She's probably great in bed
Women who have multiple children from multiple fathers are very likely excellent lovers. Whether you want to try to degrade her by labeling her slutty or promiscuous, the common denominator is, she has that ooh la la that mesmerizes men and keeps then coming back for more.
a woman sleeps with a man she knows the possibilities that could result from
those moments of pleasure. In this modern world there are a multitude of
choices to prevent conception or terminate a pregnancy. A woman who is willing
to give birth to a child despite the criticism she might receive does so
because she wants to have another child and she is confident that she can make it work.
Who deserves more praise than a woman who walks onto the stage, knowing that all eyes will be judging and condemning her and still manages to steal the show?