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9 Reasons I Love New Moms

I seriously cannot stop talking to new moms—in the grocery store, at the mall, around the neighborhood. And I know I don't want to be that "weird older lady," but there is just something about a new mom that pulls me in and makes me want to chat them up. Think that's a wee bit odd? Here's what I love about new moms.

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1. They aren't competitive—yet.

They are a refreshing change from the uber-competitive moms you find at the elementary school spelling bee or the middle school science fair—unless you count length of labor, birth weight statistics, head circumference or hours of uninterrupted sleep. OK, still competitive, but in an oh-so-cute way.

2. They actually want to hear my stories of new motherhood.

But first they get to tell their birth story. All 34 hours of it. And you know what? I totally don't mind listening and adding the appropriate "Wow!" and "OMG!" comments for good measure. This is your time to shine, Mom.

3. They glow.

OK, maybe it's a combination of lack of sleep, adrenaline and coffee, but new moms just have this aura going on that actually makes me smile. Big.

I think the more we share our stories from the motherhood trenches the smaller the divide between us becomes.

4. They aren't totally focused on themselves.

Especially those I-just-gave-birth moms, who are so incredibly busy with caring for their little ones that they don't give a crap about their abs, their pedicures or the annoying gray hairs that popped up postpartum. And talking to someone who is so immersed in their baby's life is refreshing, especially since we all seem to spend so much time worrying about how we look.

5. They are looking for human connections.

Their eyes—when not fixated on their wee one—are searching those around them, looking for a connection. They are the easiest people to connect with in the grocery store, by far. Crack a smile and ask, "How old is your baby?" and get ready for a few minutes of connecting with another mom you won't get anywhere else. It's a total upper, trust me.

6. They give me hope.

By the time you are the parent of a teen (or two) you will understand—there are a lot of bad stories going around about the next generation that is poised to rule the world. So talking to a brand-new mom about her pride and joy gives me hope that the next generation has more than a fighting chance of running the country when I'm living in the nursing home.

7. They take me back in time.

I've always heard people say they still feel 27 on the inside, even when their outsides scream 39 or 43. I never really got that until I started noticing that the new moms I saw out in public were usually younger than me. Asking a new mom about her baby/diaper bag/cute leggings/stroller transports me back to a time when I felt truly ageless. Well, except for those mornings when my total sleep time the night before was spelled out for all to see in the sizable bags under my eyes.

8. They make me feel like an expert.

I'll be the first to admit that I am no expert in any field. But when a new mom is looking for guidance, baby-calming tricks or simply just another mom who understands (and listens) it makes me feel a little bit smart. Sure, my answers only worked for me—but I think the more we share our stories from the motherhood trenches the smaller the divide between us becomes.

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9. They make me appreciate my older kids.

Selfish? Maybe a bit. But chatting with a new mom about midnight feedings, projectile vomit, episiotomy tears and sleep deprivation kind of makes me thankful that my kids are older now. It's truly a badge of honor to make it through those early days.

So new moms, beware. If you see a middle-aged woman with glazed-over eyes staring at you, I promise I'm harmless. And I would totally love to hear your birth story.

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