I seriously cannot stop talking to new moms—in the grocery
store, at the mall, around the neighborhood. And I know I don't want to be that
"weird older lady," but there is just something about a new mom that pulls
me in and makes me want to chat them up. Think that's a wee bit odd? Here's what I
love about new moms.
They are a refreshing
change from the uber-competitive moms you find at the elementary school
spelling bee or the middle school science fair—unless you count length of
labor, birth weight statistics, head circumference or hours of uninterrupted
sleep. OK, still competitive, but in an oh-so-cute way.
2. They actually want to hear my stories of new motherhood.
first they get to tell their birth story. All 34 hours of it. And you know
what? I totally don't mind listening and adding the appropriate
"Wow!" and "OMG!" comments for good measure. This is your
time to shine, Mom.
3. They glow.
OK, maybe it's a combination of lack of sleep,
adrenaline and coffee, but new moms just have this aura going on that actually
makes me smile. Big.
I think the more we share our stories from the motherhood trenches the smaller the divide between us becomes.
4. They aren't totally focused on themselves.
those I-just-gave-birth moms, who are so incredibly busy with caring for their
little ones that they don't give a crap about their abs, their pedicures or the
annoying gray hairs that popped up postpartum. And talking to someone who is so
immersed in their baby's life is refreshing, especially since we all seem to
spend so much time worrying about how we look.
5. They are looking for human connections.
Their eyes—when not fixated on their wee one—are searching those around them, looking for a
connection. They are the easiest people to connect with in the grocery store,
by far. Crack a smile and ask, "How old is your baby?" and get ready
for a few minutes of connecting with another mom you won't get anywhere else. It's
a total upper, trust me.
6. They give me hope.
By the time you are the parent of a
teen (or two) you will understand—there are a lot of bad stories going around
about the next generation that is poised to rule the world. So talking to a
brand-new mom about her pride and joy gives me hope that the next generation has more than a fighting chance of running the country when I'm
living in the nursing home.
7. They take me back in time.
I've always heard people say
they still feel 27 on the inside, even when their outsides scream 39 or 43. I
never really got that until I started noticing that the new moms I saw out in
public were usually younger than me. Asking a new mom about her baby/diaper
bag/cute leggings/stroller transports me back to a time when I felt truly
ageless. Well, except for those mornings when my total sleep time the night
before was spelled out for all to see in the sizable bags under my eyes.
8. They make me feel like an expert.
I'll be the first to
admit that I am no expert in any field. But when a new mom is looking for
guidance, baby-calming tricks or simply just another mom who understands (and
listens) it makes me feel a little bit smart. Sure, my answers only worked for
me—but I think the more we share our stories from the motherhood trenches the
smaller the divide between us becomes.
Selfish? Maybe a
bit. But chatting with a new mom about midnight feedings, projectile vomit,
episiotomy tears and sleep deprivation kind of makes me thankful that my kids
are older now. It's truly a badge of honor to make it through those early days.
So new moms, beware. If you see a middle-aged woman with
glazed-over eyes staring at you, I promise I'm harmless. And I would totally love to
hear your birth story.