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Can You Help Me Find My Sister?

Kara Perricone, 36, was in her early 20s when she found out she had another sibling. She overheard a phone call which tipped her off. She immediately went straight to the source and asked.

Her mother's face turned white when confronted by the question of whether or not she had given birth to another child, but she eventually admitted she had placed a baby for adoption when she was 21 years old.

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The details were hard to hear. Her mother had been a young girl, in love with a boyfriend about to go to war in Vietnam. They had broken up right before he left, and then she realized she was pregnant. In an era where single motherhood still had quite the stigma attached, she didn't feel equipped to take on that responsibility by herself. And so, she opted for adoption.

Adoption has changed quite a bit. Open adoptions are now the norm, and most birth mothers have the option of maintaining at least some form of communication with the children they place, should they so choose. But back in the late '60s, closed adoptions were the only possibility available to most women. Kara's mother never even knew the sex of the child she had placed—that baby was whisked away from her and into the arms of the adoptive parents before she got to say goodbye.

She never planned on telling her children the secret of her past. And like many birth mothers who placed during the closed adoption era, she never planned to search for the child either—convinced that doing so would only further hurt all involved, including her current husband, Kara's father.

It may very well be that the power of social media is the only way to help these two sister's finally find each other.

For years, Kara sat on this information respecting her mom's wishes. Yet she was forever curious about the sibling she had never known, but wasn't sure where to begin a search for someone she knew so little about. The only information she had was that the baby had been born on November 29, 1968, at St. Mary's Hospital in Manhattan, Kansas.

It wasn't very much to go off of.

But when she became a mother herself, her desire to find her sibling grew. She found herself longing for that tie, wondering if her missing brother or sister would have been close to her—or would have had children her own son might have loved growing up alongside.

And so, just a month ago, she decided to begin the search. It's a path she plans to tell the rest of her family—including her mom—later this summer.

Unfortunately, she hasn't been able to find out very much. She filed paperwork with the State of Kansas Department of Children and Families, eventually receiving a call back letting her know what her limited options were. The person on the other end of the phone let it slip that the baby placed for adoption all those years ago had been a girl.

A sister.

But they weren't able to give much information beyond that.

Still, knowing she had a sister made Kara's desire to find her all that much stronger. She'd always wanted a sister, and now she wondered if she one day might have that sisterly bond she had been craving all her life.

As someone who has been close friends with Kara for almost a decade now, I can tell you—she would be a pretty amazing sister to have. We lived next door to each other for years, back when I called San Diego home, and she was my running partner and confidant. I was actually one of the first people to find out she was pregnant, after she and her husband had been trying for far too long, and we cried happy tears together at the news that her dream of motherhood was finally coming true.

She is warm, funny and intelligent, with the sweetest little boy you have ever met. And she has a big heart, with a lot of love to share.

If you think you might be the sister she is looking for, or if you have any information about her, I would love to help connect you. Please email us at areyoumysister@yahoo.com or contact me via Facebook and I will get you in touch.

Even if you don't know who Kara's sister might be, your willingness to share this information (and the graphic on the left, which is perfect for Pinterest, and below, which works well on Facebook) would mean the world! It may very well be that the power of social media is the only way to help these two sister's finally find each other.

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And wouldn't it be amazing to play a role in that?

So please, share and spread the news. We are looking for a little girl born on November 29, 1968, at St. Mary's Hospital in Manhattan, Kansas.

Could she be you? Or someone you know?

Your sister is looking for you. She would love to have you in her life.

Image via Kara Perricone, Graphics by Alex Coward

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