Sometimes it'll be hard, so hard that you can't think
straight. Sometimes you won't trust your instincts. Sometimes you'll feel like
you're doing everything wrong. You'll feel inadequate. You'll feel like a
failure as a parent.
You'll wonder how everyone else seems to have it
together, and then there's you, watching everything fall apart.
You're going to burn the dinner. You're going to feel like
you're being tugged in a million different directions. You're going to feel
like you have nothing together. You'll feel like your thoughts and your
feelings and your own well-being don't matter at all. You'll feel like you're
losing your sense of self. You'll feel disconnected from your partner. Sometimes
you're going to feel completely and utterly lost.
And it's okay to feel that way. Actually, it's totally
Collapse right there on the kitchen floor and cry. Let
out all of the stress, the pain, the confusion and uncertainty. Let the weight
of it all fall off of your shoulders.
You'll also remember that comparison is the thief of joy, and even if Suzie looks like she's got everything running smoothly and perfectly, she doesn't.
Then, you know what you'll do? You'll remember that you
brought this little being into the world for a reason, and he belongs to you
just as you belong to him, and when he looks into your eyes and grins, that
smile is your smile and that laugh is for you and you alone.
You'll remind yourself that you are a mom, and you've got
this. You'll remember how strong and capable you are. You'll also remember
that comparison is the thief of joy, and even if Suzie looks like she's got
everything running smoothly and perfectly, she doesn't. None of us do. We're
all flawed and stumbling through the days. None of us really know what we're
doing. And thank God, right? Nobody needs that kind of pressure.