This job of being a stay-at-home-mom is a lonely one. You wake up with your baby. You go
on walks with your baby. You make food for yourself and your baby. You play
peek-a-boo in the living room, read books on the bed and snuggle up on the
Just you and your baby.
The days are filled with silence and blank
stares. You spend time talking to someone who can't talk back. Some days you
feel you've gone mad for simply talking to yourself. We're talking full-on
conversations with the best little listener you'll ever know.
This job is a rewarding one. You get that big grin and those sweet baby giggles in
return. You get to spend every day forming an unbreakable bond with your baby.
You get to watch how he reacts to the world, how he grows and learns and changes
every single day, in every instant. You get to be the one who teaches him right
from wrong, who spends the long days and the short years by his side. It's you.
It's all you.
This job is a
blessing. But it's also so lonely. I get that. Know that you're not alone.
Strike up a conversation with another mom at the playground. Be the one to
initiate a play group in your neighborhood. Go to the library's story time or
the city pool's swim lessons. Put yourself and your baby out there.
This job is demanding and challenging and heartbreaking. Raising a child is not for the faint of heart.
It can be
lonely, but it doesn't have to be.
Form a sense of community. It's so easy to
feel a deep bond with women on social media, but at the end of the day, this
still leaves you and your baby, alone. The relationships formed through a
screen can only go so far. As humans, we need that physical, in-person
connection. As moms, we need our village. Build your village. You can do it.
Look loneliness in the face, and laugh at it.
This job is a tough one. It can tear you to pieces. It can
break you down at times. This job is demanding and challenging and
heartbreaking. Raising a child is not for the faint of heart. But you aren't
alone in it. You are never alone. You aren't the first and you surely won't be
It's easy to wallow in our loneliness. It's easy to wonder
how that other perfect mom does it. Stop wallowing. Stop wondering. Walk up to
her and ask her to grab coffee. Ask her how she does it. You'll soon learn that you're more alike than you think. And you can learn from each
other's similarities as well as differences.
You've got this, mama. All you
have to do is get out there.