It's far too easy to fall into the trap of mom guilt. It's too
easy to look at the sink full of dirty dishes and the overflowing laundry
basket and the dust forming on the mantel and feel like a total failure.
Why is it so
easy to feel like a failure?
As moms, we can be way too hard on ourselves. We feel guilt,
we feel anxiety and we feel inadequacy. We feel it all, because we put way too
much pressure on ourselves. We feel the pressure of perfection. The pressure of
being the perfect mom and the perfect housewife and the perfect everything. Well, guess what? We're not perfect.
We can never be perfect.
But I think
there's beauty to be found in the imperfect moments. We must only stop for a
second, and we can see the perfection in the imperfections.
Sure, we haven't showered in a few days, our hair is
constantly in a top knot on the center of our heads, the bags under our eyes
are unconcealable and we haven't slept a full night in who knows how long, but
when we stop to look at our lives, the good will always outweigh the
We have it all, us moms. These little people we get to call our own?
They're pretty awesome. For all of the frustration that they bring out in us,
there are so many tender moments and so much love coming from behind those eyes
that's impossible to ignore.
Let's give ourselves grace. Let's stop trying to measure up to some unattainable level of perfection.
I think if we all stop to really count our blessings,
instead of wallowing in our insufficiency, we'll find that they are
immeasurable. And we will see that we are enough, and what's more, we are
the best mother for our children. And how powerful of a feeling that is.
So I'm proposing this to you: let's be easier on ourselves. Let's
pledge to roll with the punches, stress less and enjoy life, however it comes.
Yes, some days are unbelievably hard, but we live for those moments that make
it all worth it. And those moments will come, over and over again. Let's give
ourselves grace. Let's stop trying to measure up to some unattainable level of
perfection. Sure, we may have messy houses and messier lives, but gosh, they
are so worth it.
And maybe our laundry baskets and sinks are full, but so are