Do you have any advice on when to move two kids into the
same room? Eventually, I want my preschooler and baby to share a room, but do I
wait until the baby is sleeping through the night? She's in our room now, and I
feel like we'd all sleep better if we moved her. But she still wakes up a
couple times a night.
Dear Crowded Sleepers,
Two little ones sharing a room: it's just so sweet. In
my experience, the benefits outweigh the drawbacks. They get to keep each other
company, hear each other's little sounds, eventually carry on conversations and
whisper to each other before falling asleep. There's a really nice sense of
connection in a shared bedroom. And, of course, many of us (including my family)
don't have a choice, because there aren't enough bedrooms to go around.
For the most part, babies and little kids learn to sleep
through each other's nighttime sounds and wake-ups—they become like background
noise. So, if you want to move your baby into your older child's room, that can
work at any age. A baby and little kid can go to bed at the same time (around
7:30 p.m. works well), and they can follow the same bedtime routine, too. You
can read books, chat or sing in the dark for a moment, say good night to each
other and things in the room, kiss goodnight and pop both into crib or bed.
Most likely, even if
there's some protesting or fussing involved in that process, your older child
will sleep through it. If she doesn't, it would be good to explain during the
day that the baby is still learning to sleep and may wake up and make some
noises in the night, but our bodies still stay in bed until the sun comes up. Also, use
white noise in the room—I like rain sounds or a fan on low.