Do you ever stop to think what your children will remember
most about their childhood? What are the memories that will hold out in years
Will they remember your daily adventures? That you chose to
stay home with them? That you chose to be a working mom? That you chose to
breastfeed them or bottle feed them? That you always ate dinner together each
night? Will they remember that you sat on the floor and played silly games of
make believe? Will they remember that you chased them around the yard, laughing
out loud and collapsing together in the grass, exhausted?
Will they remember the dishes piled up in the sink? The
laundry baskets overflowing on the bed? The smeared windows and mirrors, from
their own sticky little fingers playing peek-a-boo with themselves?
They won't. What they will remember is how much fun you are, how you were always there when they needed you. That they felt safe and loved and happy. These are
what memories are made of.
What’s important is our outstretched arms, our
attentiveness, our reassuring nods and whisperings of, “It’ll be okay.”
What’s important, as mothers, is that we're present—in the
moment—with our children. What’s important is our outstretched arms, our
attentiveness, our reassuring nods and whisperings of, “It’ll be okay.” What’s
important is that we are there.
The laundry can wait. The dishes can wait. Dammit, those
smeared mirrors can stay forever for all I care!
We're always way too hard on ourselves, to the
point of being harmful. We tend to remember the negatives, even though we know
that the good far outweighs the bad. Stop with the self-deprecation! Stop with
the image of perfection! Because if perfection is your goal, you will always fall
short. You will never be enough.
But guess what? You are! You're the best
mother to your children. And what you're doing is the most important thing
that you can. You're shaping lives. You're kissing boo-boos. You're gentle.
You're kind. You're sweet. You're patient (even when you really don’t want
You're their home. And you're the memory that your children will
carry with them forever. So be a good one.