Having a baby changes everything. All of a sudden, you're not living life just for yourself anymore. I think we all have an idea of the major ways in which that alters your life.
But can we talk about the little ways that life changes? Sometimes, all those little things can feel like quite a bit to take in as you acclimate to new life with kids. Here are some of the less consequential but still irksome modifications motherhood makes in us all:
1. Eating at
Sure, you can still go to
restaurants. But more likely than not you'll be
going to family-friendly ones that would not have been your first
choice back in the childfree days. Do I wish I could go to that
intimate, dimly lit Indian place that makes the best lamb korma?
Definitely. Will my toddler turn her nose up at even the most basic of
dishes there? Definitely. The last thing I want to do is to have to make a
meal for a child once we get home because she didn't eat anything at
the restaurant. Suddenly a laminated menu doesn't seem so bad.
Technically, you can
do this. But be prepared to look like a complete wreck the next
morning. Our kids make us early risers, whether we're morning
people or not. That means that many of us have to shut down come 10
p.m. In college, I could stay up all night and rock an exam the next
morning. Or I'd stay up with friends because someone decided they wanted
to watch the sunrise. You know, kid-free stuff. Not anymore.
Before I became a
mom, I never drank coffee or tea. My secret was always having plenty
of sleep and, well, you know how that goes. Now I drink a strong cup
of tea each morning and can feel its magic take over. Ah, that's
Our kids make us early risers, whether we're morning
people or not.
4. Sick days
Remember the days we
were sick and felt terrible but could curl up on the couch in a robe
and watch daytime TV with tissues and orange juice? Those were the
days! Now when we get sick, we still have to take care of our kids. I
might still end up watching Netflix with my kid, but it's probably going to be Daniel Tiger.
Am I the only one
who's in the middle of reading about three books at any time? Quiet
time around the house is hard to come by, so I end up doing my reading
in those in-between moments. Every time I check out a book from the
library I think to myself, "I will finish this before the due date." I
still have 100 pages to go on Paulo Coelho's “The Alchemist.”
Wish me luck.
6. Carefree shoe
I was a mom, shopping for shoes meant leisurely strolls around the
city looking for the perfect pair of heels for some
romantic date. I had time to browse, indulge. Now shoe shopping means
fumbling over my daughter trying to get her squirmy feet into a new
pair. No, we're not here for hot pink cowgirl boots, we're here for
sensible sandals, do you hear me?