In a recent interview Gwyneth Paltrow revealed she "nearly died" from the miscarriage she suffered trying for baby #3. When I read her interview I thought, "Thank
goodness!" Not, of course, that she suffered a miscarriage, but that one of the
most famous movie stars in the world spoke publicly about her experience.
You see, celebrities talking about such a raw,
heartbreaking subject are a brand spankin' new phenomenon. It is uncharted
territory. When I had my
miscarriage four years ago, which I subsequently hemorrhaged from and had to be
hospitalized (perhaps similar to Gwyneth's "nearly died" experience); the only
other Hollywood goddess I'd heard of having a miss was Nicole Kidman, and it
was way back when she was married Mr. Couch Jumper, Tom Cruise.
In our current times of glossy magazines and their
ever popular "bump watch," sections, we are inundated with photos of pregnant
celebs putting gas in their cars (while wearing 6-inch heels, of course), drinking a super-size iced coffee, playing with their older children at the
playground. You don't see the back stories when you look at these beautiful
pictures; the blood and injections and hospital stays and tears that can
sometimes accompany trying to make a baby.
It's a relief that celebrities are beginning to speak about miscarriage
So yes, it's a relief that celebrities are beginning
to speak about miscarriage, if only to save another woman from the sucker punch
in the gut I felt when it happened. It eventually helped me to think of my experience
as something natural and common instead of a tragedy or freak occurrence.
And it's not just Gwyneth. Beyonce, when speaking of
the miscarriage she suffered before getting pregnant with daughter Blue Ivy said, "There are so many couples that go
through that and it was a big part of my story." Brooke Shields, mom to Rowan Francis, 9, and Grier
Hammond, 6, wrote in her book Down Came
the Rain: "We were crushed. Up till then, I thought simply because it
was time and I wanted to have a baby, it would work."
When you miscarry you feel like this tragedy has
only happened to you, that you are drifting alone on a raft in a sea of
pregnant friends, babies on stranger's laps on the bus, children running past
you on the sidewalk. But you are not alone. 10-20% of pregnancies end in
miscarriage. Which is why it was such a relief for me to read about a celebrity
brave enough to start the conversation, instead of hawk her latest crappy
plastic shoe line. Gwyneth is indeed, "just like us."