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Gwyneth Paltrow's Miscarriage & Mine

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In a recent interview Gwyneth Paltrow revealed she "nearly died" from the miscarriage she suffered trying for baby #3. When I read her interview I thought, "Thank goodness!" Not, of course, that she suffered a miscarriage, but that one of the most famous movie stars in the world spoke publicly about her experience.

You see, celebrities talking about such a raw, heartbreaking subject are a brand spankin' new phenomenon. It is uncharted territory. When I had my miscarriage four years ago, which I subsequently hemorrhaged from and had to be hospitalized (perhaps similar to Gwyneth's "nearly died" experience); the only other Hollywood goddess I'd heard of having a miss was Nicole Kidman, and it was way back when she was married Mr. Couch Jumper, Tom Cruise.

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In our current times of glossy magazines and their ever popular "bump watch," sections, we are inundated with photos of pregnant celebs putting gas in their cars (while wearing 6-inch heels, of course), drinking a super-size iced coffee, playing with their older children at the playground. You don't see the back stories when you look at these beautiful pictures; the blood and injections and hospital stays and tears that can sometimes accompany trying to make a baby.

It's a relief that celebrities are beginning to speak about miscarriage

So yes, it's a relief that celebrities are beginning to speak about miscarriage, if only to save another woman from the sucker punch in the gut I felt when it happened. It eventually helped me to think of my experience as something natural and common instead of a tragedy or freak occurrence.

And it's not just Gwyneth. Beyonce, when speaking of the miscarriage she suffered before getting pregnant with daughter Blue Ivy said, "There are so many couples that go through that and it was a big part of my story." Brooke Shields, mom to Rowan Francis, 9, and Grier Hammond, 6, wrote in her book Down Came the Rain: "We were crushed. Up till then, I thought simply because it was time and I wanted to have a baby, it would work."

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When you miscarry you feel like this tragedy has only happened to you, that you are drifting alone on a raft in a sea of pregnant friends, babies on stranger's laps on the bus, children running past you on the sidewalk. But you are not alone. 10-20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. Which is why it was such a relief for me to read about a celebrity brave enough to start the conversation, instead of hawk her latest crappy plastic shoe line. Gwyneth is indeed, "just like us."

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