Postpartum Sex Drive Dips for Dad, Too, Study Says
byKaitlin StanfordAug 05, 2013
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If you weren't exactly eager to get back in the sack after giving birth, you're definitely not alone. Much has been made about the fact that post-baby sex is ... well, not always at the top of mom's to-do list. But what about dad? Where does his libido factor in? Well new research is showing that his desire to get it on may seriously dwindle in baby's first few months, too.
According to LiveScience, a new study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine claims that one in five newbie dads don't pursue sex after baby for more than three months. And no, it's not because he finds you any less attractive than before. It's because he's been pretty pooped lately, too. Among some of the biggest reasons cited for a post-baby sex drought (other than the advised six-week wait) was dad's exhaustion, lack of time and a concern over his partner's physical condition.
As Zita West, a top fertility expert and midwife, told the Mail Online: "Very little research has been done on new fathers. Most of the attention focuses on the mother, breast-feeding and the baby's health."
But of course, it takes two to tango. And once dad's paternity leave is up, those middle-of-the-night feedings and marathon diaper changes can start to take their toll on him, too.
"After the excitement of the early days," West said, "many men are going back to work exhausted and often feeling excluded by the bond between mother and baby, particularly when they are breast-feeding." This in turn leads dads to feel wiped out, short on time and a little slow to get their sexy back, too.
But fear not. According to West, it all just takes a little more time and patience than parents first realize. "Both mother and father need to recognize the stresses and strains," West said, "including the pressure to get back to normal ... and give each other space and time."
Was your partner's sex drive totally kaput in those first months home with baby? Or do these findings not ring true for you?