I’m going to do something I never thought I’d do. I’m going
to defend Kim Kardashian. Because the Internet is giving Saint and North’s mom
a serious case of mom shame, and I’m just not having it. Neither should you.
See, the other day Kim posted an adorable photo of her son
Saint sitting in his car seat. You know the photo. Every mom has taken a
similar photo of her little cutie looking adorable in the car. We’ll call it the
cute car seat photo, and it’s about as innocent as cotton candy or unicorns.
But the Internet missed the point entirely and went straight
for the car seat jugular. It took Kim to task because her 18-month-old son was
sitting in a forward facing car seat.
California law (where Kim lives) requires kids to sit rear-facing until
the child is either 2 years old, 40 or more pounds, or 40 or more inches
tall. In theory, we should all be
concerned about the welfare of anyone’s child.
But just because you have an Internet connection and a Facebook account doesn’t make you an expert in car seat management.
And, it doesn’t give anyone the right to be
snarky or mean. Much of Kim’s car seat
detractors were both snarky and mean (imagine!).
If you’re thinking, “Well, Kim should have her
under-2-years-old child in a rear-facing car seat since Kim lives in California,”
you might be right. Maybe. But, who knows where the photo was taken? Kim and
Saint may not have been in California at the time. And, last I checked Kim’s Facebook post, she
didn’t post her son’s height and weight in anticipation of a bunch of critics
tearing apart an otherwise totally adorable mom moment.
Kim Kardashian West, Los Angeles, CA. 30,168,299 likes · 675,018 talking about this. where I'm meant to be...
Photograph by Facebook
The reason you and I should care is because mom’ing is a grueling
job, whether you’re you, me or Kim Kardashian.
Here Kim is, a seemingly involved and proud mom, and people are calling
her out for her car seat installation. It seems like Kim
can’t win for losing. It’s a feeling most
moms have felt dozens of times in our parenting careers. We’re criticized and judged for something
that others know nothing about (See also: To the Parents Who Give Their Kids iPads in Restaurants). Or we're judged for innocent parenting mistakes that we
all have made (See also: Attachment Parenting My Baby Was Unhealthy and a Mistake). And we all will.
So if Kim’s car seat is in fact in California and is
installed incorrectly, it’s safe to assume that a kind relative or friend will
politely whisper in her or Kanye’s ear, “Hey you may wanna turn that seat
around until the little guy is older.” But the last thing any mom needs is a
bunch of haters jumping on the bandwagon and taking her down.
Motherhood is hard enough. None of us needs a bunch of arm
chair (or car seat) experts making it harder. Now, let’s talk about how cute Kim’s
little guy is. Go!