Good news royal watchers: The search is over and Kate Middleton has finally found "the one." Any
new mother who goes the nanny route knows that once one becomes a mom, "the one" is no longer her
husband. The "one" is her nanny. That’s
because it’s hard to find the right person with whom to entrust your little
prince. Surely Princess Catherine felt the same way, especially because her
little prince actually is a little prince.
myself somewhat of an expert on hiring nannies. That’s because I’ve hired many
myself. Before we hired Carmen, who has
worked for our family for over three years (whose nickname in our house is Saint Carmen), I had four terrible nannies in a row. Maybe I didn’t know what to look for in a nanny or maybe I just had
terrible luck. Regardless, it’s life-changing to find “the one,” for mom and for
best of circumstances, a nanny is an extension of the parents and really does
become a part of the family. Since I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I
finally found my Nanny Charming, I thought I’d offer Princess Catherine and Prince
William a bit of advice on having a successful relationship with their nanny.
Because as any mom knows once you find the one, you definitely don’t want to
1. Don't micro-manage. This may be the first baby you’ve raised,
but it’s not the first baby your nanny’s raised. If you’ve hired an experienced
professional, you don’t need to give her daily detailed instructions on how to
raise your child. Chances are she already knows.
2. Pay your nanny well. There is no one more important to parents than their children, yet we
pay those who take care of them the least. A few extra dollars an hour may not make a huge difference
to you, but it will be the difference between hiring someone who’s just fine vs.
someone who’s great.
As long as you’re kind and fair, you’re doing the right thing.
3. Remember, this is her job. At your job you get sick days and vacation time and a holiday bonus. So why shouldn’t your nanny? Remember, you want her to want to work with your family. Treat her like you want to be treated at work. She’s taking care of your kid, after all.
4. Choose your battles. If your nanny does things differently than you
do, but your kids are happy, safe, well-rested and well-fed, who cares? Life’s
short and your kids are happy. That’s all that matters.
5. Don't be threatened if she does some things better than you. Being a new mom is difficult and exhausting. Plus, this is the first time
you’ve had a kid. Not so for your nanny. Plus, she
wasn’t up all night with your teething kid like you were. So she’s
going to be better than you are at a few things. That’s why you hired her!
Watch and learn. It doesn’t mean you’re not a great mom yourself.
6. Encourage your kids to love her. If your kids are sad when your nanny leaves
at the end of the day, consider yourself lucky. That means they’re connected
and comfortable with her. Better than them being weepy and missing you all day,
7. Don't be afraid to be the boss. It’s wonderful to be
friendly with your nanny, but that doesn’t mean you're friends. Sometimes she’s
going to ask for things, and you’re going to have to say no. As long as you’re
kind and fair, you’re doing the right thing.
And last but not least, don’t feel guilty that you have a nanny. It may not take a village to raise a child,
but it definitely takes a kingdom. A good mom knows when she needs help, and
there’s nothing wrong with having help when you’re a mom.