When did I become the mother of a first-grader? Where did time go and what did I capture from that? I’m not talking about the never-ending loads of folders with labeled videos and pictures, but those seconds that make you feel as if time stood still—like when your kid walks alone for the first time or when she's able to put shoes on without help.
I was so consumed with the day-to-day routine and planning for the big events that I let many beautiful moments slide by unnoticed. When you’re a young parent, it can be even more challenging to know how to prioritize. In a split second I will close my eyes and my son will be graduating high school while my daughter graduates college. I’ll be left with an empty nest, just like Patricia Arquette’s character in "Boyhood." (Check out our exclusive clip below!)
The film is shot with the same cast over a period of 12 years. Arquette plays a single mom who struggles with the challenges of being a parent and a woman. The entire plot feels genuine, relevant and relatable; a family going through changes, including divorces and remarriages, is certainly not far-fetched.
I still remember the day my daughter was born. After an exhausting 32-hour labor, she was
finally in my arms, feeling the warmth of my heart, touched by my tears
of joy. I still shed a tear or two when I think about that moment. It was magical.
I was 22 years old when she was born. After a short three-month
courtship, I was engaged, then married and, shortly after, on the path
to starting a family. But I wasn’t ready for that. I didn’t know what it meant
to be a wife, much less a mother. I had just started learning what it meant to
be a good daughter, so how did I pass to the other side so quickly?
Like Patricia Arquette said, "Maybe life is the moments in between those big moments."
inconvenient, consuming, naive and innocent love can do that to you.
changed my goals of living in New York and traveling the world for those I never
knew I wanted. Everything happened so quickly that I
didn’t have time to stop and think about anything. I just did what I had to do
and became who I had to be.
In that journey, I learned many things and made many
mistakes, yet I tried my hardest under the circumstances to be the best I
could for my two kids—not for myself and not for anyone else. But at
some point I got lost. I found myself questioning my choices and realized I
had put too much emphasis on the destination and not on the experience.
urge to make sure my children were always fed, cleaned, schooled, I forgot to
savor the little things that were happening around me. For example, the fact that
somehow my children discovered "The Flintstones" and "The Jetsons" and fell in love
with them as much as I did, or that my daughter kept a small suitcase packed
for when—as she says—she goes to Paris with me. These are just two of hundreds of amazing moments that are easy to miss in the chaos of everyday life. I always
imagined I would be exempt from that—I would be the one to pay attention. And then one day I woke up, and it was time to
drop off my daughter for her first day in first grade.
It never hurts to put our
lives in perspective and take a second to think about where we are going. And
if we don’t know, do we at least know who we want to be? Are we truly taking the
time to live our lives and enjoy or are we just silent bystanders? All I know
is that I’ve learned what matters is not making plans, but enjoying the
process of it all and to be present in each moment.
Like Patricia Arquette said, "Maybe life is the moments in between those big moments." I could not agree
"Boyhood" is available onDigital HD December 9, 2014, andBlu-ray on January 6, 2015.