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Why Moms Should Be More Like Zayn Malik

I know that this might hit all the One Directioners out there pretty hard, but, as a parent, I support Zayn Malik's decision to leave the band. To be 22 years old and walk away from fame and money, because your heart feels it's the right thing to do, is not an easy choice to make. The pressure from management, agents, fans and the media can be overwhelming and burdening.

Knowing the exact moment when time away is needed shows a level of maturity and self-worth that I want my kids to have.

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So I understand Zayn's decision, and I fully support it. Leaving the band does not mean the end of his career. He can always come back with a solo album, another band, a film project, anything. I mean, the kid made millions of dollars off his talent before the age of 20. This too shall pass, and, once he decides what he wants to do next, he will find the right team to support and encourage his vision. However, right now, we should take a cue from his actions and realize how important it is to decompress and voice our needs.

The ability to put yourself first for your own mental sanity, and recognizing your needs, is something that even adults struggle with at times. I can identify with that struggle very much. There have been times when I have felt the need for time alone in order to regain perspective. Raising two small children while having a career at the same time can take a toll. While guilt can make it difficult to take a break, being able to do so is essential to being a healthy parent.

I get to do something that reminds me I'm not only a mom, but I'm also a human being. I am a woman with dreams, goals, and desires.

As moms, we rarely give ourselves the merit we deserve with all the sacrifices and efforts we make to keep our families and homes together. We are so caught up in the cooking, cleaning, laundering, nursing and teaching that we forget that sometimes we need space—space to read a book in silence, to take a relaxing shower that does not involve interruptions, to eat a meal without having to stop to feed someone else, to watch a TV show that does not involve cartoons, to finish writing an article without interruption.

I love my life and would not change it for anything, but I have realized the small moments I get to be by myself have helped me to be a better mom. I come back refreshed, with less stress, feel energized and reinvigorated. Even if all I do is take three hours a week to get my hair or nails done, or pick up groceries by myself, I feel renewed again. That short period of time is life-changing.

I get to do something that reminds me I'm not only a mom, but I'm also a human being. I am a woman with dreams, goals and desires. A person who has her own likes and dislikes, wants to live a fulfilling and inspiring life and is always trying to improve herself.

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In the end, I don't want to be recognized by anyone except my kids. But, I have learned that in order to achieve that, I must recognize myself first.

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