Every now and then, when I'm scrolling through my Facebook feed before drifting off to sleep, something jumps out at me,and I can't
resist the click. Usually it's of the
sneezing panda variety, but yesterday it was of the "I can't believe Donald
Trump said that" variety. The blurb said
that Donald Trump called Elizabeth Beck, an attorney who questioned him during a
deposition and needed to take a break to pump milk for her 3-month-old
My first thought was: No f-ing way did he say that.
My second thought was: Don't click on the article, you're
going to get mad and be up all night.
My third thought was: If you must read it, go get some ice
cream because it's going to be a long night.
Here's what happened. During depositions, which
can be long, tedious and acrimonious, Donald Trump said some really incendiary
things. And neither he nor anyone in his
camp has denied that he called Ms. Beck "disgusting," during the negotiations
to halt the deposition temporarily so she could express breast milk for her
The only defense Trump's people offered for his comment was
that his use of the word "disgusting" to describe Ms. Beck was "in no way a
statement about her decision to breast-feed or pump."
He's demonstrated over and over again that he lacks class, compassion, intelligence and psychological sophistication. I don't expect much out of Donald Trump—I just hope he drops out of the race sooner rather than later.
Let's pause for a moment. This guy is running for the highest office in this country and thinks
nothing of denigrating a woman in an attempt to shame her for needing a break
to express breast milk? How is Donald
Trump's candidacy still a thing? How are
women not blowing up the Internet with blog posts and complaints about his
Trump's a smart enough guy. He's at least smart enough to know that depositions take place in front
of a court reporter, who was sitting in the room with him, transcribing every word spoken. He knew that his choice words for the working
mom who wanted a break would be memorialized in a transcript that would last
forever. Hell, it's easier to leak a
deposition transcript than a Kardashian sex tape.
He had to know. But guess what? He didn't care. He didn't care that down the road, millions of women would see how he bullied a working mother who made a reasonable request for a "medical break."
Mr. Trump's lawyer suggested that his client's ire over the
breast pump incident stemmed from his suspicions that she was simply trying to
buy time to think of new questions to ask. Mr. Trump apparently didn't think it was a true "emergency" for the mother with a 3-month-old to pump in the middle of a lengthy legal proceeding. What in the world would Mr. Trump had said to
her if her breasts had started leaking when he refused to take a break? Or if Ms. Beck, like me and plenty of other
nursing mothers back at work, had a cabbage leaf in her bra that poked out as
her breasts became enlarged? What then? Would that be more or less disgusting to the sensitive Mr. Trump?
None of this is terribly surprising given Mr. Trump's racist
remarks about immigration or his sketchy claims about his business deals. He recently retweeted a misogynist "joke" (which
he subsequently deleted) about Hillary Clinton's (in)ability to satisfy the
American people when she couldn't satisfy her husband. He's demonstrated over and over again that
he lacks class, compassion, intelligence and psychological
sophistication. I don't expect much out of Donald Trump—I
just hope he drops out of the race sooner rather than later.
Women face enough obstacles already. Think: Glass ceiling, higher poverty rates and high percentage of domestic violence. Let's not add to the list a major
national leader who thinks that working mothers who need to pump milk deserved to be called names.