When it comes to dinner parties, Molly Shannon knows who she would kick up her heels with—literally.
Celebrating her film "Fun Mom Dinner" at a party presented by Popchips, and hosted by Mom.me and One Potato in Los Angeles on Wednesday, the mom of two and former "Saturday Night Live" performer revealed that her "SNL" guest of honor would be none other than Helen Madden, the licensed joyologist.
"She's very positive and she likes to have fun," Shannon said about the character known for kicking up her legs while shouting, "I love it! I love it! I love it!" "She'd be easy—she'd take care of herself."
"Fun Mom Dinner," directed by Alethea Jones about a group of four moms who decide to let loose one night over dinner, also stars Toni Collette, Katie Aselton and Bridget Everett. The femme-friendly film, which was also written, directed and produced by women, celebrates motherhood while also finding humor in the challenges that come with it. (Hello, getting kicked out of your own bed when your kids want to sleep with you!)
In fact, speaking of challenges, Shannon revealed what she wished someone had told her before she became a mom.
"Nursing was really hard," she said. "Nobody says that. I felt it was harder than childbirth. And I had a lot of consultants come. My husband was like, 'More consultants?!' I was like, 'Yes!' There’s this idea that it’s supposed to be so natural, and it was hard. And I remember being up in the middle of the night before your milk comes in, and it hurts. It feels like a little piranha!"
The "Fun Mom Dinner" celebration, held at NeuesHouse in LA, gave guests the chance to mingle over mom life and enjoy everything from "rosé pong" to lipstick-print reading. Guests included the film's producers Naomi Scott and Alex Saks, actresses Beverley Mitchell, Amy Davidson, Jessica Hall and Ashley Jones, Weelicious and One Potato founder Catherine McCord, Books and Cookies owner Chudney Ross, as well as influencers Elizabeth Mathis, Veena Crownholm and Nicole Neves.
When asked about what's important for her mom life as a mother of two, Hall said that you need to have your squad: "Now that my daughter is in preschool, it’s important to connect with other moms. It’s nice to have real mom friends, moms that are like, 'It’s not perfect. No, I don’t sleep. Yes, you can have a glass of wine or five and still be a good mom.'"
Aselton, who has two kids with husband Mark Duplass ("The Mindy Project"), shared her advice for new moms: Take care of yourself.
"A lot of times 'running errands' is me getting a manicure," Aselton admitted. "Priortizing yourself, I think, makes you a better mom."
That goes for relationships, too, which can sometimes get neglected once the baby arrives.
"You being a mom 100 percent of the time, all the time, is not good for your kid," Aselton added. "Ultimately, being good to yourself and a good partner, and being in a healthy space in that area of your life is the best thing you can do for your kids."
And something else Shannon has learned? Don't be afraid to say no.
"A friend of mine gave me great advice. A lot of times, if you can’t do something, you don’t even have to give an excuse," Shannon said. "You can just say, 'I’m so sorry, I can’t make it.' That to me was very creative because I’d never heard it before. I always thought you had to say why!"