OK, truth time: I can often tell you what’s happening in the Kardashian household with more detail than I can tell you what’s happening in my own. Love them or hate them, when it comes to celebrities and their drama, you basically have to be living under a rock to avoid knowing their issues inside and out. And, for pop culture junkies like myself, a favorite celeb in the news can feel like he or she is a family member.
So, when last week’s news broke that the Cleveland Cavaliers’ Tristan Thompson had been flagrantly cheating on pregnant girlfriend Khloé Kardashian just days before she went into labor with the couple’s first child together, I couldn’t help but feel for Khloé as if she were my own friend or kid.
She’s about to give birth, I thought, as the story made its way around the world. What a douche.
It’s tough not to empathize with Khloé, even if you're a Kardashian hater. No, her taste in men isn’t exactly extraordinary, but that doesn’t mean she deserves this kind of disregard from her partner.
We all know what it's like to be on the verge of motherhood, hormonal big belly and all. It's lonely and scary. Add finding out your guy has what some are reporting as up to five other girlfriends, and it seems like Thompson isn’t just a cheater: He’s cruel and unkind. So, when it comes to Khloé and Tristan, I’m not rooting for them. What mom could?
Reports have Khloé doing everything from getting out of Cleveland as fast as she can, to already forgiving Thompson, focusing on her newborn daughter instead. But I think we moms all know what’s going to happen if Khloé stays with Thompson, even if we’re not saying it aloud. We’re all thinking, “Run, Khloé, run!”—because Thompson isn’t a guy who cares about Khloé or his newborn daughter. He wouldn’t have humiliated Khloé this publicly if he did.
I know it’s not popular to suggest a new mom leave her cheating baby daddy, but sometimes what’s best for our children isn’t always the easy choice.
The problem is, he probably couldn’t care less. Sure, nobody wants to be booed or be the recipient of all the negative social media comments Thompson’s received. But ultimately, a man who is cheating on his pregnant partner just days before she’s set to give birth isn’t a man who has it in him to do better. He’s not an old dog who hasn’t learned new tricks. He’s a young dog who couldn’t care less.
I know it’s not popular to suggest a new mom leave her cheating baby daddy, but sometimes what’s best for our children isn’t always the easy choice. Since we’re all probably thinking the same thing, that Khloé’s better off alone than with a guy who treats her this way, and that her daughter will respect her mom for having some self-respect, I’ll say it out loud: Guys like Thompson don’t change.
You know that. Khloé knows that. And so do I. So hopefully Khloé will be able to find the courage and strength to move on. Because the story of Khloé and Tristan only ends one way, whether she accepts it now or prolongs her own agony.
When it comes to love and family, most women have the instinct to keep their family together. Some even feel selfish for wanting to move on from a bad partner. But, not only do we owe it to our children to give them a happy home, even if that means ending a bad relationship, we owe it to ourselves.
Motherhood doesn’t always have to mean putting your own feelings, values and dignity aside. And it shouldn’t mean that for Khloé. Sometimes our happy ending looks different than we pictured. Sometimes our happy ending is simply us finding our own happiness—even when we're alone.