We love a good letter. A good letter can make you cry, laugh and come back to it over and over. Caitlin Moran's posthumous letter to her daughter is so good that it's making the rounds again.
First published two years ago, the journalist and author's viral post offers advice to her daughter on self-esteem and body image, love and unsuitable men, conversation tips and even advice on the size of her biscuit tin.
"My daughter is about to turn 13 and I've been smoking a lot recently," the mom of two introduces, "and so—in the wee small hours, when my lungs feel like there's a small mouse inside them, scratching to get out—I've thought about writing her one of those 'Now I'm Dead, Here's My Letter Of Advice for You to Consult as You Continue Your Now Motherless Life' letters. Here's the first draft. Might tweak it a bit later. When I've had another fag."
Her main tip to start?
"The main thing is just to try to be nice. You already are—so lovely I burst, darling—and so I want you to hang on to that and never let it go. Keep slowly turning it up, like a dimmer switch, whenever you can. ... You will be bright and constant in a world of dark and flux, and this will save you the anxiety of other, ultimately less satisfying things like 'being cool,' 'being more successful than everyone else' and 'being very thin.'"
Never love someone whom you think you need to mend—or who makes you feel like you should be mended.
Moran is the author of her bestselling memoir "How to Be a Woman." The kick-ass and gut-busting feminist has been described as the British Tina Fey and the next Nora Ephron, and her writing couples attitude and analysis, which you can clearly see in her viral letter. Hilarious and wise, her advice even highlights the importance of choosing who you want to be surrounded by.
"Choose your friends because you feel most like yourself around them, because the jokes are easy and you feel like you're in your best outfit when you're with them, even though you're just in a T-shirt. Never love someone whom you think you need to mend—or who makes you feel like you should be mended. There are boys out there who look for shining girls; they will stand next to you and say quiet things in your ear that only you can hear and that will slowly drain the joy out of your heart. The books about vampires are true, baby. Drive a stake through their hearts and run away."
Perhaps our favorite advice?
"Always remember that, nine times out of ten, you probably aren't having a full-on nervous breakdown—you just need a cup of tea and a biscuit. You'd be amazed how easily and repeatedly you can confuse the two. Get a big biscuit tin."