I don't typically keep up with the Kardashians but everyone in my Facebook feed seems to. Kim and Kanye newborn son's name was all over the internet. Everyone had something to say and none of it was nice.
Why do people care so much about a baby they will most likely never, ever meet? I think the thing that bothers me the most is how quickly people criticize parents for their baby name choice.
When I was pregnant with my son, I braced myself whenever asked that question people always ask expecting parents. "Do you have a baby name yet?"
My son's name is Norrin Luke. Norrin is the real name of the Marvel comic book character Silver Surfer, and Luke as in Luke Skywalker. The names we choose mean something to us. And while everyone liked Luke, people laughed when I said Norrin. Then they'd share suggestions of what they thought would be a better name.
It didn't feel so great. I was so excited to be a mom and already I was being questioned over my name choice. My kid wasn't even born yet, and already I was put on the defensive.
It's a crappy thing to do to — even if those parents are Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. And I actually feel bad that — once again — the announcement of their baby is immediately met by criticism, ridicule, and judgment. Especially when the most of the criticism I've seen comes from Latinos. So many of us have unusual names and spellings. And we love taking two names and mashing them together.
I was so excited to be a mom and already I was being questioned over my name choice. My kid wasn't even born yet, and already I was put on the defensive.
In my life, I've met an America, a Santa Ana and a Virgin Maria. I can't even tell you how many guys I know named Jesus. Then those are the names that I overhear walking the streets of New York City: Alize, Hennessy, Forever, Trust. I could go on and on.
Unusual baby name conversations almost always turn into whether or not it's an appropriate name for a resume. (Which is laughable when talking baby Saint and little North because let's be real —I'm pretty sure Kim and Kanye's kids are gonna be OK.)
And the criticism I've seen regarding Kim and Kanye's name choice (or anyone with an unusual name) is just as discriminating.
In my own way, I envy anyone with an unusual name. Growing up with a name as common as Lisa, I'm either one of a few Lisas in the room or people easily forget my name. But people with unusual names are almost always remembered.
Sure, there are some names that I question. I don't like every name I hear. But I'm not going to hold anyone's name against them. And I'm definitely not going to be a jerk and tell a new mom that her baby name is stupid or ridiculous. What do I care? A name is just a name. It doesn't define us. What should matter is the person, not the name. And a really good person is always remembered, long after their name is forgotten.