Much to the
disapproval of the Internet and uptight people everywhere, Chrissy Teigen and
her husband John Legend stepped out this weekend for the first time since
welcoming baby daughter Luna on April 14. The first-time parents went out to
dinner and were immediately attacked on Twitter by a mob of righteous,
torch-carrying moms for thinking they had the right to enjoy a little chardonnay
and endless breadsticks without bringing the baby along.
celebrities want to show off so bad after giving birth. Spend bonding time with
your baby and not let the nanny or babysitter raise them," one angry and obviously
perfect mom scolded. And that was one of the nicer comments. By the vitriol Teigen
was subjected to, you would have thought she'd left her baby in the car while
she ran into a nightclub to lick vodka shots out of a stripper's navel.
Luckily, Teigen is
somewhat of a Twitter queen and clapped back—with a screenshot of some of the
ridiculousness—before she even had a chance to put her leftovers in the
I'm telling you, she was having none of it:
I feel Teigen's
pain. No, I'm not a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model married to a sexy musician, but I did once make the mistake of telling the parents of my daughter's
preschool classmate that my husband and I had escaped for the weekend—the
first time in three years—to celebrate our anniversary while my brother
watched our kids. "Wow, I hope you had fun. Next time you should go for a
week," the dad said, while looking down his long, judgmental nose. "And then the
next time, even longer. Then eventually how about just not coming back?"
He laughed to make
it seem like a joke, but his message was clear. He was saying we were bad
parents for leaving our kids behind. Back then there was no Twitter to lash out at him with, but in hindsight I wish I'd at least used my brand new AOL account to send him a nasty email.
The idea that a mom, even one with a newborn, can't leave the house to take some time for herself is ludicrous.
While Teigen was
able to defend herself against her critics, it's sad she had to do so in the
first place. The idea that a mom, even one with a newborn, can't leave the
house to take some time for herself is ludicrous. If you choose not to leave
the house, that's fine too (although, I highly recommend it, because SANITY) but
don't judge someone and imply she's an unfit parent simply because she's going
out for a steak.
It's hard to even grasp why moms (and sometimes dads) are vilified for taking time for themselves. Is it really concern for the baby's well-being, or is it just the tendency of parents to judge other parents in order to justify their own parenting choices? Or is it jealousy that someone else has grasped the concept that life, and enjoying the company of your partner, doesn't end once you have kids?