My kids are getting to those tricky ages when the social dynamics of elementary school start to become very hard for kids to navigate. And while I want both my son and my daughter to grow some seriously thick skin and be able to stand up for themselves, I can’t help but feel like a complete mama bear when either of my kids come home with a report of another kid being mean.
The truth is, protectiveness takes over and reason goes by the wayside. I want to march right into school and tell the mean kid to leave my kid alone, but I don't. I firmly believe it's important for kids to learn to work things out themselves. Not to mention, my kids would shudder from the humiliation me going full mama bear during recess.
But while I want my kids to stand up for themselves, I also want them to know I'll always stand up for them. But there's nothing worse than the parent of a bully becoming a bully in return. So I'm taking notes from these celeb parents who took down their kids' haters with grace, wit and wisdom. Turns out, you don't need to be a bully to get your point across to your kid's bully.
1. Kevin Smith
When director Kevin Smith's 17-year-old daughter Harley Quinn posted a photo of herself on Instagram, she got some major hate from one internet troll who said, “You’re ugly as sh*t.” He later called her a cancer and said he hoped she’d die. Kevin wasn’t standing for it and used his gift of gab to take down the troll saying, “If you hate me (or my kid) this much, the better use of your time is to make YOUR dreams come true, instead of slamming others for doing the same. The best revenge is living insanely well—so if you wanna get back at a 17-year-old girl for the grievous crime of enjoying her life, the best way to do it is to succeed in your OWN existence.” Word.
2. Magic Johnson
When the former Los Angeles Laker star’s son E.J. was outed in 2013 for being gay, Magic and his wife didn’t bat an eyelash. In fact, Johnson and his wife Cookie were publicly supportive. Johnson said in an interview with Oprah, “I told him, ‘E.J. I love you and I’m going to support you no matter what.” Amazing.
3. Johannah Deakin
One Direction fans know Johannah as Louis Tomlinson's mama, but she also loves to chime in on Twitter and comment on all things 1D. So when Louis faced some serious social media flack for getting stylist Briana Jungwirth pregnant, Deakin took to Twitter to make sure the world knew that her baby was a good guy. She wrote, “One day I may just write all the things that Louis is about & that he does with no intention of getting any acknowledgment for. He helps lots of people & asks that they don't say anything. He does it for them. NOT for the story!" Duly noted.
4. Pattie Mallette
Poor Bieber. He can’t seem to do anything without causing a social media storm. But according to his mom, Justin just gets a bad rap. She told Andy Cohen on "Watch What Happens Live," I definitely think he’s getting a bad rap, but I'm also not naive to think that my child is perfect and making all the best decisions of his life. He knows what I disagree with, and he knows all the things that I'm really proud of him for, too. I mean, people don't talk about all the great things he does every day.” Who knew?
5. Alec Baldwin
Model Ireland Baldwin is not a racist. Really. At least that’s what her dad, "30 Rock" star Alec Baldwin, wants you to know. See, a few years back, Alec’s eldest Tweeted about wanting to see Jay-Z and Kanye perform together. She followed the Tweet with the dreaded “N” word, but was actually quoting a Jay-Z song. Fans who didn’t know she was quoting the song thought she was just using the totally taboo word. Alec wasn’t having it and took to his own Twitter page to stand up for his first born. He said, “N**gas In Paris — Jay-Z/Kanye’ think this is reference 2 a celebration of hip-hop music in France. Just clearin’ that up. Anyone who thinks that quoting the title of that song is racist is a disgrace. To the human race.” Well, OK then.
6. David Beckham
Soccer star David Beckham is known for being a gentleman on and off the soccer field, but that doesn’t mean he’ll accept his kids being treated poorly by the media. So when The Daily Mail criticized his then 4-year-old daughter Harper for using a pacifier, Beckham spoke up via his own Instagram account. He wrote, “Why do people feel they have the right to criticize a parent about their own children without having any facts?? Everybody who has children knows that when they aren't feeling well or have a fever you do what comforts them best, and most of the time it's a pacifier. So those who criticize think twice about what you say about other people's children because actually you have no right to criticize me as a parent.” Who knew David Beckham could get any more perfect?
7. Pebe Sebert
You’d have to be living under a rock to have not heard about pop singer Kesha’s endless legal battle with music producer Dr. Luke. In fact, things got so heated for Kesha that she wasn’t allowed to perform at the 2016 Billboard Music Awards. That’s when her mom, Pebe Sebert, spoke up. Sebert Tweeted, “Does Kesha have the right to pursue her happiness? Or did they only mean that for rich men? Do you think that there is one male singer who could ever be 'not allowed to sing' on the Billboard Awards by another man?? How much more public abuse does my daughter have to take before someone says 'Enough is enough!'" Kesha recently dropped her California lawsuit against Dr. Luke stating that the lawsuit weighed too heavy on her and prevented her from putting out her music.