Many of us are excitedly awaiting "Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life" on Netflix this November. It’s been nine long years since we
abruptly said goodbye to the fast-talking mother-daughter duo and the eccentric
brood of Stars Hollow inhabitants. The last episode left so much open to
change. Rory accepted a last-minute assignment from an online magazine to
cover Barack Obama’s campaign, a pretty stellar gig for a new graduate.
Lorelai continued running her inn along with Sookie, not far from her parents,
Richard and Emily, whom she had grown closer to throughout the series. She
remained on good terms with Luke even though they had never fulfilled their
So many things could have happened since 2007, which is part of
the excitement for longtime fans. We all wonder where our favorite Stars Hollow
characters are doing in 2016, and not just Lorelai and Rory, but also Emily,
Sookie, Lane, Mrs. Kim, Michel, and even Kirk and Taylor, while we also
mourn beloved Richard.
Yet, the majority of interviews I've read online and watched on TV
have focused on which guy Rory will end up with: Logan, Jess, Dean or someone
new? And the big, looming question … will Lorelai really end up with
What irritates me about this stale line of questioning is that so much has gone on with Rory and
Lorelai in their journey together. They each experienced
tremendous personal growth. Rory went from being a whip smart
high school girl to a Yale
graduate with a big heart and an intelligent mind. Why isn't the focus on
Rory's career and life experiences?
I’m sick of series that end up with a wedding and, even
more so, with the idea that marriage secures a happily ever after.
Even Alexis Bledel, who plays Rory, didn’t consider which guy Rory
would end up (if any) when she thought of the new series. “I didn’t even think
about it!" she told Entertainment Weekly. "I was wondering what (Rory) had accomplished in her career. I wanted
there to be a payoff after all her hard work. She set so many goals and had
been so ambitious academically. That’s what I wanted to know.”
As for Lorelai, here's what I want to know: Has her business expanded? Did she ever go back to
college and/or open another inn with her best pal, Sookie? But more importantly, how
has Rory and Lorelai’s relationship changed since Rory likely moved away? Do
they still do Friday night dinners? Has
Lorelai grown closer to Emily since Richard’s untimely death?
The show has always centered on the mother-daughter relationship
and their personal growth journeys. It was a feminist show in that it displayed
a strong set of women who learned and lived for themselves, not just for a man.
Lauren Graham (Lorelai) said in an interview with Entertainment Weekly, “I would be remiss if
I didn’t say that Rory and Lorelai’s main strength, even if they believe in
true love, is that they have themselves and they have each other. The show is
sneakily feminist in that it’s always been great for them to have love, but
they’re also OK when they don’t. That self-sufficiency is the first strength
and that allows them to have these relationships. It’s why we sometimes bristle
at: What team are you on?! It’s like, it doesn’t matter. Rory’s going to be
great no matter what. And I think that’s an underlying message of the show,
In 2016, do we really need to have the female leads each end up
happily coupled? Is landing a man still our
main goal as women? Can't they each be happy on their own, whether a man is in
the picture or not?
I would love to see Rory and Lorelai happy, healthy and content
on their own, continuing to have fun on her own terms and living life as
confident, independent women. I’m sick of series that end up with a wedding and, even
more so, with the idea that marriage secures a happily ever after. Let’s give our daughters examples that young women can create their own happily ever afters—fully fulfilled from
the inside, not seeking a man to make her life meaningful, but knowing that she
is whole, complete and purely fantastic already.