I've had some major
aha moments since becoming a mom. Some leave me thinking, "Why
didn't I realize this sooner?" One that has completely changed my
life: understanding that mornings make or break your day. A strong
start makes me feel like I'm moving though my day. A sputtering one
makes me feel like the day is moving through me.
Was yesterday tough?
Experience a #momfail? Did your healthy plans fall through?
This morning, you
can start anew.
I need two things to
have a great morning. First, I need food. Breakfast is fuel. I used
to be a serial breakfast-skipper and I never knew I was losing out on
so much energy. Now I eat foods that will power me for the next
several hours. Here are some my favorite breakfast options to start
Scrambled eggs and
whole grain toast smeared with honey
fruit and plain toast
Half a bagel, cream
cheese, raw almonds and fruit
Oatmeal topped with
sliced dates and banana
I usually also have
a cup of English breakfast tea and once I have that, I'm fully awake.
Since I started having breakfast every morning, the difference in how
I feel is incredible. Sometimes, stress and fatigue is really just
The second thing I
need to have for a great morning is a moment of quiet to myself. So much
of our day is spent thinking about others, so being able to clear
everything and everyone from your mind is one of the best things you
can do for yourself. Mental clarity helps us focus and deal with
stressful situations. In other words, it helps you cope with the
reality of being a mom.
The life of a mom is
complex. I start out each day wanting to stay true to myself, my
goals and standards. I want to be the gentle mom who gives her
children a wider radius to be and learn for themselves. I want to be
a supportive, loving and equal partner to my husband. At work, I
want to be a badass who only competes with herself. I want to stay
informed and curious and never stop learning. Spiritually, I want
balance, inspiration and grace.
It's exhausting just
to write all that out.
But I find solace in
the fact that ultimately, our whole life is just made up of days.
Even minor course corrections end up mattering in the big picture.
That's why you need a reference point. That's what mornings can be: a
renewed commitment to move toward whatever you feel is important.
I'm not saying it's
easy, especially for those of us who were never morning people. I
might wake up late. My kid might wake up extra early. Forget meditation—those days start with someone yelling "Mama!" in my
ear. You might get breakfast but eat it cold because you were
interrupted by your kid needing you. Any number of things make
mornings hectic. On those days, I might not get to enjoy my morning
ritual as much as I'd like. The day might be tougher than usual;
that's par for the course when you're a mom. I try to not let it get