Jan 20 - Feb 18
- Although you might be tempted to bury your feelings today, it’s time to leave your comfortable intellectual world behind to discover the richness that waits in the vulnerable realms of intimacy. Conversations about romantic relationships run into strange crosscurrents that can pull your focus away from the real issues. The overall pace of your life and the increasing variety of interactions overstimulates your mind. There’s so much happening now that you could waste time running in circles. But being busy doesn’t guarantee success; working smarter is a much better tactic than working harder.
- People might miss your high level of commitment now, but you are on a mission and won’t easily be deterred. Nevertheless, you’re not one to rely on a plan today; you prefer to make it up as you go along. Although flying by the seat of your pants sounds good, you can improve your effectiveness by mapping out your agenda for the day, even if your activities are recreational. Your success will speak for itself. Coach Bobby Knight said, “I don’t believe in luck; I believe in preparation.”
- A straightforward approach to communication can save endless hours of reconstructing conversations to discover where you went wrong. The more you ramble on to get your message across, the greater the chance of being misunderstood. Wasting words is wasting time now. Consider what you need and ask for help as necessary. You might be happily surprised with the results as long as you know when to stop talking and when to start listening. Children’s author Joan Aiken wrote, “Words are like spices. Too many is worse than too few.”
The more you struggle to keep secrets from your lover, the more it's going to hurt you in the end. You might feel as if you simply must keep something to yourself because if you open up, your partner won't approve. To be honest, this might be true -- especially if you have done something that threatens the core of your relationship. None of us are perfect. At the same time, however, if you refuse to take responsibility for something you've said or done, or if you try to bury the situation altogether, you're only cheating yourself out of personal integrity. Ultimately, that approach will cheat you out of love.