Ever year at about this time, most of us get to
thinking of what we’d like to do differently in the coming year. Usually, New Year's resolutions seem to
include some combination of working harder and eating less. So why not think
about things we could do to make us better moms?
Here are the New Year’s resolutions every mom should make:
I know, you don’t yell at yours kids. No mom does, except
when she’s yelling at her kids. No judgment here. It’s hard not to. Sometimes it feels like raising your voice is
the only way to get your kid’s attention. But for all the obvious reasons, it’s
terrible for kids and moms. So in 2014, try to cut it out. It’ll save you all
that time spent with I-just-yelled-at-my-kid guilt.
Do More Things You
You’re a good mom spending most of your time thinking about
and doing things for your kids, but what about you? Part of being a mom means also
being a person. What happened to that yoga class you loved so much? And when
was the last time you took out your favorite book? If we want well-rounded kids, we have to be
well-rounded parents. So if people ask how you are and you respond, “The kids
are fine,” it’s probably time to get a few more interests of your own.
Pay A Little More
Attention to the Hubs
When you’re not catching up on
your tennis game and trying not to yell, try giving the hubs a bit more attention. I know
you barely have time to take a shower every day, but it’s also important to
remember your best friend, What’s-His-Name.
Every now and then, let loose a little.
Start Saying, "No."
By New Year’s Day most moms are knee deep in “overwhelmed,”
having spent the beginning of the school year being a sherpa, chauffeur, tutor
and chef. Guess what? Your kid doesn’t have to be at every birthday party he’s
invited to, and the little one doesn’t need a playdate every single day. Sometimes doing nothing is doing something, and your kids will enjoy it as much as you.
Put Down That iPhone
Multitasking is a mom’s middle name, so it makes sense that
we sometimes need to answer an email or respond to a text while the kids are
around. But if you’re like me, you find yourself nearly addicted to checking
what’s new on the phone. Sure that text is hilarious and that email is top priority, but you don’t really need to check them at every stoplight. Plus, what
kid wants to feel like he or she has to compete for mom’s attention with her
new gold iPhone?
Have Some Kid-Like
Kids get to run around, climb on things, scream to their
hearts content, eat fried things and take a nap. Sounds fun, right? Well, why
shouldn’t mom? Every now and then, let
loose a little. And yes, you can have the fries.
Spend Some Quality
Mom-Time With Your Kids Separately
Everyone in the family wants a piece of mom all the time, so
sometimes it seems unfair to just spend time with one of the kids. But just
like you need the occasional date with the hubs or with a friend, it’s nice to
spend some one-on-one time with each of your kids separately. They’ll feel special, and so will you.
Gosh, being a mom is hard. It’s a job that comes with no
manual, education or training. So just like you want your kid to be less hard
on herself, lead by example and give yourself a break. You’re doing the best