My first Mother’s Day sucked. I’m telling you that so you
can manage your own expectations. And, so you can learn from my mistake(s).
You see, my first Mother’s Day sucked because I didn’t have
the inside scoop on just how to make sure I had a fantastic first Mother’s Day.
No one told me and so I didn’t know that it was up to me, not my husband, to
make sure I had the Mother’s Day I’d always dreamed of.
So I’m going to spare you the trouble of having a bad
Mother’s Day, yourself, and let you in on a few secrets. You’re welcome, and have
a great day! You deserve it.
the term “sleeping in” for your husband. You think it seems clear, but it doesn’t.
Your husband will definitely get up with the kids. But if you don’t explain
what sleeping in means, you’re getting up with them also. That’s because your
husband thinks sleeping in means you lying horizontal. He doesn’t care if the
kids are loud enough to make you go deaf or if they’re actually standing over
you, waiting for you to wake up.
don’t have to be a mother on Mother’s Day. There’s nothing wrong putting your “off duty” sign on and letting your kid’s dad
take care of the kid. You don’t have to
cook, think about cooking, clean, think about cleaning, or do any other "mom" duties. It’s your day.
Day is a whole day, not just a few hours. It’s Mother’s Day, not “Mother’s a Few
Hours.” So make sure your kid’s dad knows that you’re off duty for the whole
day. Not just for a few minutes.
No crying on Mother’s Day.
a present. You housed a person in your belly. You
deserve a gift! Subtle cues include
leaving magazine clippings on your husband’s desk or just buying the present
yourself. It doesn’t matter how you get it. What matters is that you deserve
don’t have to spend the whole day with the kids. The problem with Mother’s Day is that what
most moms want to do is see their kids for a second before going to the gym
with some friends or meeting a buddy at the spa. So do it! It’s your day to make to be happy and
celebrated, even if it’s not with the kids the whole time.
don’t have emergencies on Mother’s Day. Your kids may not have received the memo,
so you may want to give it to them. That memo says, "No crying on Mother’s Day." They can cry the rest of the year.
your husband what you want to do in advance. The best way to be disappointed on Mother’s
Day is to leave the day’s planning entirely up to the hubs. Tell your husband, in advance of the day, how you’d like to spend it. But be
warned. If you say, “Surprise me!” he may surprise you with an entirely crappy
So take it from me. I’ve had six Mother’s Days to learn from.
Don’t be afraid to enjoy the day exactly how you want to. You can go back to
taking care of everyone else tomorrow.