no prude. OK. A little bit, sometimes, about certain things — like the women’s
locker room at the gym, for instance. The striding about from wall to wall in
the buff ... There are towels for this very
I know. I know. It’s my own minor hang-up to sort through.
It’s me, not them. The truth is, if someone chooses to walk around the change
room au naturel, do you, sister. (I
will draw the line at trudging through public bathrooms and showers in bare
feet, though. The level of gross is too damn high.)
all make our choices based on what makes us feel comfortable — I get it. Where
the fog sets in for me on the nudity question is around my young son and his choices.
At 5, the guy has exactly zero percent inhibition when it comes to being nude in public. He’ll hop out of
his swim trunks in the middle of the open water park without a moment’s pause.
For him, it’s all about changing out of these soaked shorts, not his bare bum.
Once after swimming at pool, he even asked if he could stay “like this” and
essentially air-dry on the playground. Unfortunately, that was a no from me. If he’s working an intense
LEGO build and his shorts or shirt are affecting his artistry, off they go. And
also? Don’t ask him why he decided to drop trou, because he’s working. Sssh.
I don’t want to curb his comfort with his body and being natural, but I also don’t want him to be made to feel strange or weird.
It doesn’t matter if there are
loads of girls or babies around (two types of human about whom he can be
fickle), this youngster is not studying them. He’s too focused on playing,
reading, chilling, being and doing his own thing.
of me feels like this nude thing is no biggie. If he’s cool, I’m cool. But as
he’s getting older (too quickly!), I’ve started to wonder if I should
perhaps break down the concept of modesty to him. He already understands that
we all need privacy sometimes, when using the bathroom, for example. (The day
he stopped following me into the loo was an unmistakable victory, friends.)
I need to extend that successful lesson and introduce the notion of being nude
in private? Should I venture into when it’s “OK” to be nude around other
people? I don’t want to curb his comfort with his body and being natural, but I
also don’t want him to be made to feel strange or weird around other potentially
laughing, pointing kids. And, moreover, does strolling through this territory
edge up toward talking about sex? Because I’m not ready for all THAT. So, so
not ready for that.
Clearly, I have questions, but no real
answers. And maybe therein lies the solution. This stuff will work itself out
and worrying about it really helps no one.
My guess is, this nudist leaning is just some
holdover from toddlerhood, and we will soon be knee-deep into big boy matters
like bike riding sans training wheels. And when it comes to those kind of
activities, clothing is not optional.