When I found out I was pregnant, I knew my world was going
to change. When I learned I was having a baby girl, I knew I had my work cut
out for me.
Young girls have a lot of pressure from society about how
they should look, act and dress, and as her mother it’s my job to protect her
as best as I can from those judgments. How? Well, it starts at home.
“The way a girl feels about her beauty starts with how you
feel about yours.” That’s the message behind a new video called "Legacy" by
The moms in the video share what they love about their
bodies and what physical traits they dislike. Their daughters were so aware of what
their mother’s saw and even projected some of those opinions on themselves.
One afternoon when I was putting on makeup, my daughter asked
me why I wore makeup. She wanted to know if it made me feel pretty. It’s a hard
question to answer.
“Sometimes,” I told her. “But makeup doesn’t make us
“No it doesn’t,” she replied.
I was curious about her thoughts on the matter.
“What do you think makes us beautiful?” I asked her.
She thought for a moment before answering.
“Pretty dresses!” She explained.
The message in the video stuck with me and made me stop and think
about the things I say about myself in front of my daughter. Of course when she
asks me if I think I like my appearance, I tell her I do. I don’t want to
waiver in my confidence in front of her because I know my attitude can rub off
Knowing how I want my daughter to feel about herself makes me reevaluate the way I see myself.
According to a TODAY Moms survey of more than 3000 people, 31 percent of moms hate their bodies, and 2/3 of moms
say images of Hollywood moms looking extra-fit after having a baby make them
feel worse about themselves.
I want my daughter to be confidant and to love herself the way
she is. I want her to love that big head of crazy curls she has and to never
straighten them for a boy. I hope that she adores her originality and spark
that shines from the inside out.
Knowing how I want my daughter to feel about herself makes
me reevaluate the way I see myself — not only in her presence, but to have
better self-confidence overall.