I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that I'm not the
only mother whose choices sometimes keep her awake at night.
I'm not saying I do anything particularly horrible,
parenting-wise, but some nights as I'm trying to fall asleep, little doubts
from the day's events creep in. Did I overreact when that juice got spilled?
Was it really necessary to yell just because the laundry was all over the floor
(AGAIN)? Could I have shown a little more interest during that 20-minute
description of a YouTube video about Minecraft?
I try to remind myself in those moments, and what I hope you will remember too: If those doubts ever creep into your mind, your regrets are never ANYTHING like
your kids' regrets. Kids have a completely different perspective, and probably
don't even notice any of the things you're so worried about; they have their
own concerns! When you look at things from their point of view, you realize
you're doing everything just fine. For example...
Mom Regret: Not playing with them more
Kid Regret: Missing a golden opportunity to write on the walls while mom wasn't playing
Mom Regret: Yelling when her kid jumped in the mall fountain
Not stripping off his clothes and peeing while he was in the mall fountain
Being so strict in the toy aisle today
Kid Regret: Giving up after the 893rd "no" in the toy aisle today—there was a
chance Mom still might've given in!
Throwing the glitter away so she wouldn't have to deal with the mess
Kid Regret: Not having any Play-Doh left because it's all smashed into the carpet
Who knows what they were planning to do with all that glitter?
Telling them they couldn't help with dinner because she was in a hurry
Insisting they could help REALLY FAST and spilling an entire bowl of pasta
sauce on their favorite shirt
Mom Regret: Not getting them the overpriced, impractical present they wanted for their
Kid Regret: Forgetting to ask for a pony. No, TWO ponies!
Skipping a playdate because she just can't stand that little brat, Timmy
Not biting Timmy at the last playdate.