I looked at my husband and put down my coffee cup. I
caught up to her in the living room and motioned for her to join me in the big,
comfy chair. She climbed into my lap and sank into me, burying her face in my
I held her close and kissed the top of her head. "A holiday can be a
really hard time when you are missing someone you love," I told her. "But while
BaBop can't be here with us physically, he will always be with us in our
hearts and through our memories."
"But I want him to be here."
"I know. Me, too."
"BaBop was silly. He made me laugh."
"He sure did. Do you remember the Easter when he wore
those purple bunny ears we have?"
"No, I don't remember that."
"Well, you were pretty young. I have pictures I could
show you. Would you like to see them?"
We have always been open about feelings in our family.
We believe learning to identify, express
and cope with emotions is an important skill for our daughter. We work to
model that in a positive way and help her develop the skills to work through
her own tough feelings.
I hate that my child has experienced the loss of a
loved one so early on. But, it is part of life. I can't shield her. I can only hope
the way we are dealing with it will better prepare her for the future losses
and adversity she will inevitably face.
And that when those times do come, she knows we will be here for her.