Today's Humans of New York photo journal features a working
mom echoing the same feelings and frustrations many women feel: the twinge of jealousy when we wish we could
volunteer in our child's classroom, and the
pull on our heartstrings when our child is alone at the Mother's Day Tea.
She says, "They make it tough for working mothers. I don't know why
they have to schedule all of this stuff during the day." And she points out, "My first grader is
playing a hammerhead shark in his class play—but it's at 11 in the morning.
They scheduled the Mother's Day Tea on a Friday. But they put the Father's Day
Tea on a weekend, of course. The other day, my first grader told me how lucky
his friend was that his mom didn't work and could come to everything. That one
hurt a little."
It makes sense that most events are
scheduled during the school day. That's
when kids are in school. That's when
teachers and staff are working. However,
it's not just the working moms that miss out when they aren't able to
participate in school events and volunteering. All of the children miss out as well. They miss out on what a working mom can bring to the table, the fascinating skills and knowledge that
they have to give.
While it's frustrating to hear that a
school would host a Father's Day event on a weekend, but not offer the same for
Mother's Day, there are other ways to participate. Here are three outside-the-box ideas that
give working moms the ability to be involved in the classroom, have their child
feel special and benefit the entire class:
1. Virtual visit
Plan a FaceTime or similar
meeting with your child's teacher. You
can do an age-appropriate presentation about your job, what your company is
working on or even show the kids how your keycard works. Allow time for the children to ask questions.
It will be memorable for the kids and a fun break in the day for you.
2. Evening performances
Talk to your school
principal or director about having performances in the evening. Plays, talent shows and graduations are
fairly infrequent, so it could be easy to accommodate and as simple as just asking. There's something about being out at night
that could add to the specialness of the occasion.
Make an effort to form
relationships with the moms in your child's class. Try hosting a monthly mom's night out or
something similar. I've found when you
have moms in the classroom that report back to you on your child, it makes you
feel much more connected. They can text
you pictures from field trips and tell you details about what's happening in
the classroom. While it's not the same
as being there, it really does warm your heart to know there are other moms on