Being a divorced single mom gets tricky when a new partner enters the scene. When do you introduce them to your kid(s)? Is he kid-intro worthy? How do you assess when the time is right? Will it confuse them if things between you fall apart? Will they get attached and suffer loss, yet again?
There's a laundry list of pros and cons to check and so many aspects to consider that it makes my head hurt. Our kids are such a major part of our lives that even a semi-serious relationship feels a bit false without the kids entering it in some way. You don't really know me until you see me as a parent, you know?
I have heard of some single parents who wait years to introduce their new boos to their kids. I like to take the middle path, and if I am seeing someone for a few months, I think a family-style date is important. It could be a deal breaker for me. If I'm turned off by the way he interacts with my kids, I need to know now. It would be devastating for me to fall in love with someone, only to see what a douche they are with my kids.
Here's a list when you know it is NOT the right boo, nor the right time.