But if you suspect your child is doing too many activities outside of school, here are some questions to ask yourself:
Does my child seem tired or grumpy a lot of the time?
Does my child show signs of being under pressure or anxious? Is
my child stressed out?
Is my child so busy that he or she doesn’t have unstructured
time for playing, hanging out with friends, being bored, having family time and
Are there so many activities happening that we’re too busy to
eat dinner together regularly? (You don’t have to eat every meal together, but
if you’re rarely eating together, that’s a concern.)
Am I so busy and stressed getting my kids to all of their
activities that a majority of my interactions with them are reactive and
Answering “yes” to any of these questions should give you pause.
If you said yes more than once, then I’d recommend that you give some serious
thought to whether your child is signed up for too many activities.
But if your kids are happy and thriving, despite being involved in multiple activities, then you probably don't have to worry too much about whether they are overscheduled.
Notice that I’m not saying that kids shouldn’t have to do things they don’t
enjoy. You may decide that a foreign language or music class or math tutoring
is something that will pay off and is in their best interest. But, do look at
how much your child is enjoying their days and weeks overall, and the
emotional, physical and mental toll that their activities take on their sleep,
friendships and happiness. Think about how stressed you feel when you have too
much on your plate, and consider things from your child’s point of view.