This relates directly to No. 1. Making the visits joint outings ensures that each of you feels connected to one of the most important parts of the process. It also gives each of you the opportunity to see and hear everything firsthand so that you can discuss questions and concerns with each other before each visit and together with the obstetrician. If you can, go to lunch or engage in some other activity together after these visits. This gives you time to debrief and spend some quality time together. Some visits will be more exciting than others, but each can be an opportunity to connect with your spouse/partner, and that strong connection with each other is essential.