We all hope we're doing it right, but in the back of our minds we know we're just doing our
best and winging it as we go. Sure we might read books to help us improve our parenting skills, but whether or not we actually take the advice is another question. Because hey, even the
experts can turn out to be wrong years later. And that's how we do things we just
might wish we hadn't. Like these seven things I did this week:
1. Checking the iPhone Constantly
Instead of connecting with my son, I sometimes feel like an
email or Facebook post from a friend might really be important. It never is! It
can always wait.
2. Using Curse Words Right After I Say, "We Don't Curse."
Sometimes they just fly out of my mouth! I don't
want them to. But I stub my toe or slam a finger in a door, and I sound like a
trucker! Of course kids learn from watching us, so I have to remember that, even
while in pain.
3. Not Bringing the Right Foods for My Son Who's
When going to a friend's for dinner with my son, it's hard
to insist that they cook gluten-free for him. So my son eats
too much gluten and ends up with a horrible stomachache the next day. I should know
4. Talking About Topics My Son Shouldn't Hear
Since I have an only child, a lot of times my son comes with
me and hears my friends and me discussing very adult topics. Then later on he'll
ask me about it and I realize, oops, he heard way too much. Time to monitor
5. Biting My Nails
I tell him he can't bite his, usually right before I'm biting mine. Which goes back to #2 on my list. They learn from our
actions, not our words.
6. I Let Him Play More Video Games Than His
Sometimes it buys me more work
time, more time to just chill or less hassle from saying no
again. But I don't want that for him. I know that I'd much rather have "us"
time together. Sometimes tired time together is better than less time.
I had to send my son to camp to attend some work
appointments the week of spring break. And although no friends were there,
there were kids from his school, as well as the counselors he sees in his after-school
program. But he didn't want to go. So I felt guilty. So I took him out to
frozen yogurt AFTER he ending up having a great day. What am I teaching him???