Diapers and day care and drama, oh my. There is a lot to think about at every stage of parenthood, and while you may rely on your partner to help shoulder the burden, sometimes you just need someone who can relate. That’s why “mommy friends” are so important, says parenting expert Leslie Morgan Steiner, who wrote the book Mommy Wars: Stay-At-Home and Career Moms Face off on Their Choices, Their Lives, Their Families. “You can’t do motherhood alone,” she says. “Other mothers are the only people who really understand what you’re going through.” And while it might seem intimidating, making mommy friends can be easier than you think. Here’s how!