We all want our children to have healthy social lives filled
with laughter, fun and friends. Two of the biggest obstacles holding most
children back from being social are a lack of confidence in themselves and
feeling judged by their peers. We can help them with just a little bit of
coaching and listening to the things that matter most to them. Encourage your kids to do the following five things, and he or she will come a little closer to being - or at least feeling - pretty cool.
Children marvel over new toys like video games and dolls,
but once they reach middle school, the most coveted "toys" are gadgets and
clothing. The simplest way to allow your child to feel good about himself,
which will help him to be more confident around his peers, is to allow him to
choose his own school shoes, a cool book bag and a pair of headphones to wear
with his phone.
2. Play a Sport
Physical prowess is admired throughout all ages. The
confidence and team building skills learned while playing a sport will help
your child feel as though she has a valuable place in this world. When
your child feels as though she has value and is a part of a team, she will
create lasting friendships with very little effort.
Cool kids can do things that most other kids can’t.
3. Practice Being Funny
Children joke around, and it’s not a crime against nature. When
children joke, they are exercising their creative ability and wit. Oftentimes the most popular form of joking around among children is roasting, or telling insulting jokes. It is important that you prepare your children for
this type of humorous exchange by reminding them that their opinion of
themselves matters more than anyone else’s and if anyone insults or teases
them, they should laugh at it as though it is a joke and learn how to return the
favor without being distasteful.
I am sure this tip seems a bit edgy, but if you
can teach your child to laugh at himself—to accept and own his flaws or
insecurities—then he will have a better handle on life in the long run. There will be bullies at every age who prey on sensitive children who have been
told that life is all roses and compliments. It’s not.
4. Learn a Social
Skill Like Cards or A Magic Trick
When children get together, they joke around and play games.
Why not help your child stand out in the crowd by teaching her a skill that she can use for the rest of her life in social situations, like playing
cards or performing magic tricks? Not only will skills like these earn her a treasured spot at any social gathering, it will also boost her confidence
level infinitely when she's good at a skill that makes her unique.
Cool kids can do things that most other kids can’t. Some can
play ball, others are excellent leaders and some are creative souls bursting
with ideas that can be expressed through art. Nurture your child’s inner artist
by encouraging him to create art in different ways. Buy a sketchbook, paints
and a few canvasses. Order a book on knitting and show him how to get started.
When a child can create something he is proud of, your child will be known for his skill and will be proud of himself and his creations.