I took a
deep breath. “You know what, Chloe? I hear that a lot. People tell me all the
time that I’m an overachiever and that I make things too hard because I’m
trying to impress someone. But I like making cookies from scratch. This is one
of my favorite things to do, and I really don’t care if someone calls me an
But oh, I
do. I totally care.
I hate that
people call me an overachiever. The man cutting my fabric at the fabric store
wanted to know why I didn’t just buy Halloween costumes. “What are you doing,”
he began, laughing, “trying to one-up all the other moms? Are you just too good
for store-bought costumes?” Oh, he thought it was all one big joke, but inside,
Am I not
allowed to like making Halloween
costumes? Am I not allowed to prefer cookies made from scratch instead of
premade dough? Am I not allowed to enjoy the extra work I do for the sake
We don’t do it because we have to, or because we think we’re better than you.
I grew up with a mom who made our Halloween costumes and always baked cookies from scratch. She was willing to put up with a mess so that we could have picnics in the living room. She spent hours doing crafts with us, crocheting our own personal blankets and decorating our rooms like they were going to be photographed. Was she an overachiever? No. She just really loved doing all of those things. She didn’t do them to be the “perfect mom” or so our friends would be jealous. She did it because she liked it and because she wanted to. That’s the kind of mom I want my kids to remember.
nothing wrong with buying premade cookie dough. I don’t care one bit if you
want to buy your kid’s Halloween costume. It doesn’t matter to me! Your kid’s
going to be just as happy as my kid. Some parents aren’t into the “extra” work,
but I am. People say that things like Pinterest and all of these “homemade
blogs” are putting mothers who don’t like those kinds of things to shame. I
disagree. If you don’t like crafting or baking or sewing, who cares? Do
something else with your kids! I’m not really a fan of yard work, but I don’t
insist that every mother out there landscaping a gorgeous garden with her kids
is trying to one-up me.
I just ask
her if she charges a reasonable fee and if she’d like to come pull all of my