Sorry, girl, but I’ve got a serious bone to pick with you.
I’ve always been a fan of
your work as an actress and have had immense regard for you as a producer. You have spoken up as a champion of women, as
mothers and in the workplace. Your
recent comments regarding Harvey Weinstein and your admission of your own
dealings with sexual harassment took courage and undoubtedly helped countless
other actresses who had similar experiences to speak up. But then you insulted mothers who make their
living as bloggers and I was left wondering why.
See, Reese, at this week’s WSJ Magazine's 2017 Innovator Awards in New York City, you
spoke so eloquently about the need for more films and content for women,
created by women. You discussed the need
for more opportunities for women in the entertainment business. You discussed the value of having
diversity, both in casting and in content.
But, when referencing the need for more diverse content for women you
said, “And I’m not talking about mommy
blogs and 14 ways to cook a turkey.” I’m sure that got you a lovely little chuckle,
but your words made me rethink you as a champion of working women.
a proud member of the community of thousands of women—many of whom are mothers—who make their living as bloggers. Like
many bloggers, I cringe at the term “mommy blogger,” as it’s always used
pejoratively—a professional pat on the head meant to marginalize someone’s
professional pursuits. In your attempt
to champion diversity, you neglected the fact that women who have children are a
lot of things, including mothers, but we are not defined by motherhood alone. Just as you are a mother and an actress, you
probably wouldn’t appreciate being called a "mommy actress." So, no, I don’t
appreciate being categorized by motherhood, especially by a fellow woman and mom.
Semantics aside, I was curious why someone in your position would marginalize a
group of women who are doing exactly what you claim to want to do. Bloggers are
using their own platforms, which they have painstakingly built on their own, to
provide a myriad of content to an audience hungry for authentic
entertainment, as well as information. Bloggers
are their own bosses, own their own content, and are in full control of their
schedule and workplace. The online
community is one of the few branches of the entertainment and media business
that is dominated, if not run by, women. But yet you equate what we are doing to
something as trite as “14 ways to cook a turkey.”
I cringe at the term 'mommy blogger.' Just as you are a mother and an actress, you probably wouldn't appreciate being called a 'mommy actress.'
umbrage at your words not only because I make my living as a blogger, but
also because your comment shows a tremendous lack of respect for a group of women
who have found a way to be both mothers and writers—and sometimes even support you and your work in the process. You minimize the diversity of content one can
find online and ignore the fact that many mothers would have no other
opportunity to earn money were it not for their blogs. You downplay the power of bloggers to
inform, enlighten and entertain.
assuming all the work of mommy bloggers is not a good representation of women,
you also minimize the depth and quality of content available online. No, not every blog post is a gem. You can
relate, I’m sure. You did star in "Hot Pursuit," after all. But there are
fabulous writers making their living by writing online. Go read a few posts by
Jenny Lawson, if you need proof—or any of the talented bloggers here at Mom.me.
are mothers providing inspiration and much-needed information on their
blogs. If you haven't already, check out Ilana Wiles, a social media force
to be reckoned with. And then there are moms like Baby Rabies’
Jill Krause, who—on her award-winning blog—has openly and graciously documented her battle with postpartum depression, and the highs and deep lows of raising children.
Like most of the writers I know who make their living online, these
ladies are confident, competent bosses who are not only making a living while
their children are asleep or in school but also inspire others to do the
same. I’m sure you can relate.
guess the bigger issue is this: Why take a group of women down in an effort to promote
another? I’ve seen more terrible movies than I’ve read terrible blog posts. Why pick on a group of people whose goals are to be good mothers and good
writers? There's really nothing to pick on about that.