Every year, I make the same resolutions: lose weight,
eat healthier. I don’t ever stick to them. Sure, that first week in
January I’m on fire. But come February? It’s back to my favorite vices:
chocolate, bread, fried food. (And treadmill? What treadmill?)
So this year, I’m doing things differently. This year,
I’m making resolutions I can actually keep. This year, I’m making Mommy
New Year’s Resolutions.
Being a mommy requires saint-like patience. Which I do
not have. So I’m going to work on that. Crayon on the walls? No
problem! That’s what the magic eraser is for. Kids refusing to brush
their teeth? I’ll wait. Don’t like the dinner I’ve served
you? Let’s talk.
I will be patient. I will be patient. I will be
Am I patient yet?
2. I resolve to be tougher on crime
I’m usually pretty good at discipline, but sometimes I
cave. I give my kids a chance to “earn back” whatever privilege they’ve
lost, or I give them another chance entirely. But in 2015, I’m going to be
tougher. As the kids get bigger, it’s more and more important to reinforce
boundaries and make them understand that their actions have consequences.
3. I resolve to say ‘no’ less
I’m not going to let the inmates rule the asylum. But,
I do think I can speak differently to my kids. Instead of a sea of “no,” I
can phrase things with a more positive spin. I can suggest we do things
another way or point out that they know the rules. When they request ice
cream for breakfast, instead of a flat out “no,” I can ask, “Is ice cream a
breakfast food? (And when they say, “Why, yes! It is!” I will
consult resolution No. 1.)
Sometimes, with the madness of keeping order in the house and raising the kids, we forget about our other relationships.
I hate yelling at my kids. Really I do. But
sometimes, when the kids are jumping off the couches, aiming for the
I can’t think reasonably. My instinct is to start yelling. But I
don’t want to be a yeller, and I don’t want to teach my kids that yelling is
the answer. So, coupled with my new resolution for more patience, I will
speak sternly. I will not raise my voice. I will make sure my kids
hear me without having to resort to shouting. (Are you laughing yet?)
5. Make time for my other relationships
Sometimes, with the madness of keeping order in the house
and raising the kids, we forget about our other relationships. We cancel
Moms Night Out plans; we neglect our own mothers, our sisters and
sisters-in-law; and we forget to pick up the phone to connect with
friends. After all, the kids come first, right? Well, in 2015, I
resolve to nurture all of my relationships. Especially the most important
one in my life — my relationship with my husband. That means mandatory date
nights, more patience for him (not just the kids!) and, most importantly,
setting aside time each day to connect. Time without kids, without
phones, without TV. Time to talk and catch up.