details are juicy. Anne Dias Griffin is divorcing billionaire Ken
Griffin and has reportedly claimed monthly expenses which include
$6,800 for groceries, $7,200 for dining out, $60,000 for office space
and nannies, $160,000 for vacations, $300,000 for a private jet and
$2,000 for stationery.
The complete list amounts to about $1 million in monthly child support. The couple are parents to three
children under 8. If you read about this, or any other
support case in the media, you'll be sure find
vitriol directed at these
the antagonism merited? I don't think so. Because here's what I say: More power to you, Anne.
these astronomical figures likely
seem ludicrous to average moms like us, there’s a rationale behind
the huge payouts. That same rationale is often used to guard the interests of children in families of more modest means.
law in Illinois, where
the Griffins live, and the law in many other states,
deems that children of a marriage are entitled to maintain the
lifestyle they enjoyed when the parents were married. This position draws naysayers, but the law
grew out of the practice of husbands threatening their wives with
financial ruin should divorce ever cross
this law, many wives
and children were
really need to spend $2,000 on stationery? That's
lot of money to spend on pretty paper, but it's
not a lot of money for the Griffins (who
an estimated net worth of $5 billion). It would seem that this is
what Anne Griffin really
wants to preserve—that $2,000 wouldn't suddenly become
a lot of money. That would, after all, be a drastic change, and one that Anne and
her children shouldn't have to endure despite the sense of
schadenfreude such an event might spur. The nasty comments directed
at Anne point to a darker social phenomenon: why do we want to see
divorced moms suffer?
Griffin is well within her rights, as any mom in her position would be.
don't begrudge her the cushy child support order. That's just one way
she's watching out for her family.
in divorce cases involving everyday parents, the same law is used to
protect a child’s right to live in a safe home, have access to
healthcare or enjoy an after-school program. It's true that an average earning couple would have to work harder to maintain a comparable lifestyle for their kids
post-divorce while also facing the challenges of maintaining two
A divorce is a major change and
both parents should be invested in persevering a semblance of normalcy for their children where possible, especially in light of new parental dynamics. For Anne, that just happens to mean keeping her private jet.