Sure, I was dying to have a girl, but no, I will not be trying for
another. I feel this great responsibility in raising boys, making sure they grow
up to be good men, men who do the right thing. Men who act like stand-up guys and
not little man-children. I think a lot about their future. I think about the
type of girl they'll end up with (or guy, if that's the case). I wonder what their
future relationships will look like.
And I think about all the things their
future spouses will want to thank me for.
Here are the 8 things my future daughter- or son-in-law need to know:
1. You are
beautiful, smart and amazing in every way
tells me that every chance she gets, and we have a wonderful relationship. I'd
like for us to have a wonderful relationship, too. So, even when I'm annoying
you, remember: I think you are beautiful, smart and amazing in every way.
2. All the good
things you like about him? That was all me
He tells you how
pretty you look. He is kind, considerate and generous. He cleans up after
himself, he knows how to cook and he has a great sense of style. That was all
me. You're welcome.
The relationship with in-laws is one of the hardest you'll have to manage in your life.
3. All the bad
things that drive you crazy? That was all his father
He loves video games. He's obsessed with the New York Jets. He hates fancy
foods, he loves corn dogs and he would rather hang on the couch
than go out. That's all Dad.
4. I love to
After all, I raised two wild maniacs, ahem, I mean boys. I love kids! So, get
on it already. What are you two waiting for? Make me a grandmother.
5. I only want
what's best for you
with in-laws is one of the hardest you'll have to manage in your life. You were
raised in one distinct way, and I raised my kids in another completely distinct
way. So, there's bound to be a culture clash from time to time. But remember, I
only want what's best for you—that's where I'm coming from. A good place, I
promise you. And also, I think you're beautiful, smart and amazing in every way.
No matter what, no matter how difficult the topic, I am always here for you.
6. I only want
what's best for your kids
So, by now
you've obviously made me a grandmother. (What? You haven't? See No. 4,
please.) You're going to raise your kids in the way that you think is right,
just like I did. And I understand that the way we raise our kids is a reaction
and response to the way we've been raised. But really, I know what I'm talking
about. After all, I raised your husband, didn't I?
And also, I
think you're beautiful, smart and amazing in every way.
No matter what,
no matter how difficult the topic, I am always here for you. So, talk to me. If
you need me to just listen, I'll do that. If you need advice, I'm (more than)
happy to do that, too. Let's talk. You are special to my son, and you are
special to me, too.
8. I think
you're beautiful, smart, and amazing in every way