In fact, I told my daughter, "When I was your age, I never
expected my mom to entertain me. I entertained myself."
But there will be plenty of times when I step back and let her figure things out for herself.
Let me be clear: I am very engaged with my child. I play
games with her. Do crafts. Build forts. Have dance parties in the kitchen. Go
on nature walks and hold her leaf collection. Draw on the driveway with
sidewalk chalk. Set up the sprinkler in the yard and watch her run through it.
I have read to her until I have no voice left. I support and
interests. Satiate her desire for connection and interaction. I volunteer
in her classroom. I kiss boos boos and have never once turned down a request
for a cuddle.
But I am not my daughter's playmate. And I don't need to be
her sole source of entertainment at all times. In, fact, I would argue I
When left to her own devices, she has the ability to come up
with amazing things all on her own. And that competence will be essential to
her success in life. The more opportunities she is given to nurture her creativity
and problem-solving skills, the more she will learn what she is capable of, the
greater her confidence and sense of accomplishment.
I will always be there for her when she truly needs me. And I
trust in my instinct to recognize those situations.