While I've admitted to being wrong about stay-at-home moms, I never thought in a million years that I would quit my job to spend more time with the kids. When I told people that I'd be resigning from my job, I received overwhelming support from friends and co-workers. But there were still a select few people that asked, "Why would you quit a full-time on-air weather gig to become a homemaker?"
For me the answer was simple: "To keep my sanity and be there for my family." Our daughter starts kindergarten in the fall and my evening weekday schedule wouldn't allow me the opportunity to pick her up from school.
As it stands now, Grandma picks up both kids everyday from daycare and pre-k. But she won't be able to once the new schedule kicks in. Some folks suggested that we hire someone to pick her up and babysit, which sounds great. However, the caveat is that I'd only see the kids on weekends—and that's just not acceptable.
I'd be lying if I said I didn't fear leaving my job to become a stay-at-home-mom.
Dropping them off would be another issue. Right now, there start time is pretty flexible. We can literally stroll in at whatever time and be OK. Walking in at 10 a.m. would be totally unacceptable in kindergarten, not to mention the high demands of Common Core. Nowadays, kids are learning at a much faster rate. Some parents have even told me about the intense stress their young children are under as a result of the new education guidelines. All that said, I'd like to be there to help with homework and stay on top of the school schedule.
As far as our son is concerned, I look forward to finally experiencing more milestones in person instead of via smartphone. He'll be 2 next month and we'll be working on potty training, so having a flexible schedule will move things along much better.
My husband and I thought long and hard about this decision. There were some people who thought I was crazy for wanting to quit my full time job. While I do understand that I was giving up a great salary with benefits, I also thought about the priceless moments I'd have with my family. Most importantly, it would be a better quality of life.
We put pen to pad and went over our finances. For starters, we stashed money away. My husband's job will now provide healthcare.
Even though I've given up a huge part of our household income, we've also figured out ways to save cash. For instance, I traveled about two hours round trip each day for work. We'd save on gas, car maintenance repairs and tolls. I now have more time to cook, which means less dining out and more money in the bank. Since I'm home to pick up the slack, my husband can put in an extra hour or two of overtime to also make up for the deficit. His job also offers the option of working from home. This is definitely a work in progress and we'll continue to tweak our finances as needed.
I'd be lying if I said I didn't fear leaving my job to become a stay-at-home-mom. I do have a lot of concerns about leaving the news biz. But, I do believe that God has a plan. For me, that plan involves following my heart. My boss offered freelancing opportunities, which means that I'd be called to fill-in as needed. Right now, I'm just taking things day by day. If an opportunity were to come up that is conducive to family life, then I'm all in. But for now, I'm content.
Did you ever quit your job to become a stay-at-home mom? How difficult was the decision?